The Cost of Fitting In. | Sandra Janke | TEDxHHL

Personal Struggle & Transformation - The speaker, an opera singer, shares her experience with feeling like an impostor and performing a life that didn't feel like her own [1][2][3] - She describes the pressure to conform to the expectations of the opera world, striving for perfection and recognition in prestigious venues [6][7] - The speaker experienced stage fright and self-doubt, even resorting to coping mechanisms like drinking before performances [8] - A pivotal moment on stage led to a realization that she was performing not just on stage, but in all aspects of her life [11][12] - The speaker emphasizes the importance of listening to one's inner voice and pushing aside expectations to pursue personal fulfillment [13][14] Career & Entrepreneurship - The speaker founded an online coaching business, "Artist Leadership," to mentor creatives and leaders, reconnecting with her voice and passion [15] - She left a secure university teaching position to pursue coaching more intensively, despite external pressures and expectations [15][16] - After being laid off from the opera, she applied for and obtained a leadership position in the young opera department, forming a female shared leadership team [17][18] - The speaker challenges the notion that one must focus on a single path, advocating for pursuing multiple passions and defying conventional expectations [18][19][28] Self-Discovery & Well-being - The speaker encourages the audience to define what truly makes them feel "deeply, joyfully, and undeniably" themselves [19] - She suggests daily journaling for five minutes to sift through the 36,000 thoughts a day and connect with one's heart [21][22] - The speaker highlights the importance of finding supportive people who encourage one's authentic self and becoming, not just performance [23][24]