The Reparenting Revolution | Dr. Ashwini Govinda | TEDxSt Pauls College

Trauma & Healing - Trauma is not just the event itself, but what happens inside a person, stored somatically and leaving imprints neurologically, biologically, and genetically [7][8] - Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) have a high impact on an individual's later life, potentially leading to diseases, disorders, and dysfunction [9][10] - Intergenerational trauma can be transmitted unless interrupted, but healing can also be passed on [11] - Trauma is not just violence or neglect, but the meaning the nervous system assigns to overwhelming experiences, often encoded when too young to name it [12][13] Reparenting & Conscious Parenting - Reparenting involves meeting the unmet needs of one's inner child, moving from survival mode (fight or flight) to thriving [20][21] - Reparenting is necessary, not optional, and involves offering oneself the presence and parenting deserved all along [22][25] - Intimate partners can trigger both wounds and healing [24] - Conscious parenting can change how we see our children and ourselves [26] - One does not have to be a biological parent to be a parent; one can be an influencer, role model, aunt, uncle, or neighbor to children [27] Healing Process - Healing is not personal but cultural, a messy process of peeling layers [30] - Healing is a continuous journey, not a destination; the word "healed" implies stagnation [31] - Breaking patterns occurs through awareness, which is what happens in reparenting [32]