5 steps to start being kinder to yourself | Melissa Robinson-Winemiller | TEDxUTulsa

Core Concepts - Empathy is not just emotional, but also cognitive and self-empathy, with emotional empathy being only one of 43 different types [1] - Empathy is passive, focusing on feeling the feelings without judgment or action, while compassion is the action taken based on those feelings [1] - Numbing and deflecting are common reactions to discomfort, but can be detrimental if used excessively [1] Self-Empathy & The Shame Spiral - Self-judgment, fueled by unmet expectations, leads to feelings of failure, shame, and a destructive shame spiral [1][2][3] - Empathy and judgment cannot coexist, highlighting the importance of self-empathy in breaking the shame spiral [4] - The "5 Rs" (Recognize, Redefine, Replace, Reinforce, Revise) provide a framework for replacing self-judgment with self-empathy [5][6][7][8][9][10][11][12][13] Practical Application - Recognizing self-judgment habits is the first step to changing them [5][6] - Replacing self-judgment with self-empathy involves questioning and understanding the root of self-critical thoughts [8] - Reinforcing new habits through consistent practice and positive reinforcement is crucial for lasting change [9][10][11]