The myth of success | Khairani Ashry | TEDxUniversiti Brunei Darussalam

Core Values & Principles - Success is multifaceted and often misunderstood, with the visible achievements representing only a fraction of the effort and sacrifices involved [1][2] - The speaker emphasizes the importance of balancing tradition and ambition, particularly within the context of Brunei and Asian cultures where collective responsibility and family values are significant [3] - Three key values are highlighted: stability, integrity, and "cilatraim" (connection), which guide the speaker's approach to bridging tradition and ambition [4] Redefining Success & Values - Stability is traditionally associated with secure employment (9-to-5 jobs, government positions) and marriage, but the speaker redefines it as finding consistency and fulfillment in pursuing one's passions [5][6][7][8] - Integrity is not tied to job titles but is a fundamental character trait, demonstrated through aligning words with actions, especially when unobserved [9][10] - "Cilatraim" (connection) emphasizes building relationships beyond transactional interactions, recognizing the unique stories and expertise each individual possesses [11][12][13][14] Achieving Balance & Fulfillment - It's possible to harmonize tradition and ambition, finding a middle ground where they coexist and complement each other [14] - When tradition and ambition are balanced, work transforms from a mere hustle into a source of "baraka" (blessings), providing sustained fulfillment through challenges [15] - True success lies not only in visible achievements but in the "baraka" that sustains one's journey, encompassing sincerity, integrity, and perseverance [16]