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The Trap of Approval: Why Validation Isn’t the Answer | Aryaman Solanki | TEDxYouth@SVIS
TEDx Talks· 2025-08-21 15:34
Hi everyone. It's an honor to be back to school. I am Aiman.To be standing amongst these stalwarts under the spotlight is not something that comes to me naturally. Yet here I am. Let's do a quick mental exercise together.Close your eyes just for a moment. I promise it won't take too long. Now think of a moment which you were absolutely sure of suddenly changed.Maybe a gold slipped through your fingers. Maybe someone you trusted let you down. Or maybe life just didn't follow the script you had in mind.Feel t ...
The Lost Essence of a Human Life | Krish Guyer | TEDxSunmarkeSchool
TEDx Talks· 2025-08-08 15:30
Core Argument - The speech argues that modern society's emphasis on education, employment, and financial wealth as pillars of survival has led to an "algorithmic lifestyle" that prioritizes external validation over inner well-being [6][7][8][9][10] - It suggests that this over-prioritization keeps individuals fixated on the lower tiers of Maslow's hierarchy of needs, hindering self-actualization [10][11] - The speaker proposes pausing from the pursuit of survival to reflect on behaviors and perceptions, ultimately reclaiming the essence of a human life beyond mere survival [21][22] Psychological and Behavioral Analysis - The speech highlights how the reward system, designed for survival, now reinforces the chase for external validation through dopamine release, creating a cycle of seeking momentary pleasure [12][13][14] - It suggests that reliance on external validation leads to a state of constant "fight or flight," fracturing attention and minds, and making inner well-being dependent on external situations [18][19] - The speaker questions whether individuals are craving external validation for growth or merely for relief, filling a gap within themselves [15][16] Societal Impact - The speech contends that societies have shaped the perception of a successful life through standards and expectations, leading to a collective script focused on the pillars of modern survival [6][7] - It argues that these pillars, initially meant for survival, are becoming markers of identity, with education becoming the pressure to perform, employment defining worth, and financial wealth dictating success [8][9] - The speaker implies that this societal conditioning has resulted in individuals unconsciously enslaving themselves to external factors, losing personal responsibility for their inner well-being [20]