20 years into our marriage, my wife Andrea and I sat across each other on our anniversary. We should have been celebrating. We were asking the one question that no couple really wants to say out loud.Do we want another 20 years just like the last. See, back then we thought there were only two options. In fact, that moment could have been the end of a marriage, but it wasn't.It was the beginning of something new, something I didn't quite have the words for at the time. Because like everybody else, we thought ...