Core Viewpoint - The article discusses the negative impact of "extreme independence," a behavior pattern that is increasingly harming individuals in a society that promotes individualism and suppresses vulnerability [1][2]. Group 1: Definition and Origins - Extreme independence is characterized by individuals who pride themselves on handling everything alone, rarely seeking help, and often being the first to assist others [1]. - This behavior often stems from childhood experiences in chaotic environments where emotional and physiological needs were unmet, leading to a survival strategy of self-reliance [1][2]. - The phenomenon of "parentification" occurs when children are forced to care for their parents' emotional needs, neglecting their own [1]. Group 2: Psychological Impact - As these "mature" children grow into adults, they may exhibit strong responsibility and adaptability but remain highly vigilant in relationships, fearing intimacy and dependence [2]. - Internally, they often feel lonely, anxious, and disconnected from their true selves, as their brains remain in a heightened state of alert due to early emotional neglect [2]. - This defense mechanism, which once protected them, now hinders their ability to connect with others, leading to silence in times of need [2]. Group 3: Path to Change - The good news is that the nervous system is capable of change through "neuroplasticity," allowing extreme independents to learn trust and build intimate relationships [3]. - This process requires time, repetition, and conscious practice, such as expressing needs in low-risk situations and allowing vulnerability in trusted relationships [3]. - Healthy independence is defined as the willingness to take responsibility while being able to rely on others, contrasting with the notion of independence born from the inability to depend on anyone [3].