Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes that there is no perfect marriage, only happiness that comes from careful management and understanding of relationships [5][70]. Group 1: Letting Go of Expectations - High expectations in a relationship often lead to disappointment and conflict, as illustrated by the story of Janet and Brad, who struggled due to their unrealistic expectations of each other [9][11][14]. - Reducing expectations can lead to a more mature and fulfilling marriage, as shown by the experience of Professor Shen Yifei, who learned to communicate her needs directly [22][24]. - The essence of a successful relationship lies in loving each other as they are, rather than trying to mold each other into ideal partners [36][37]. Group 2: Letting Go of the Desire to Change - Attempting to change a partner often leads to frustration and conflict, as demonstrated by Christopher's experience of trying to reshape his wife into his ideal [28][34]. - True love involves appreciation and respect for each other's individuality, rather than imposing personal desires on the partner [39][46]. Group 3: Letting Go of the Need to Win - A competitive mindset in a relationship can create tension and conflict, as illustrated by the story of Rao Pingru, who prioritized emotional connection over being right [40][47]. - A loving home should not be a battleground for winning arguments; instead, it should be a space for mutual respect and understanding [46][49]. Group 4: Letting Go of Control - Over-controlling behavior can lead to resentment and anxiety in a relationship, as seen in the story of Vanessa and Richard, where Richard's controlling nature ultimately led to their divorce [53][57]. - Healthy relationships require a balance of closeness and personal space, allowing each partner to maintain their individuality [63][65].