有时候，你会不会觉得自己的孩子有点懒？ 你也经常会对孩子说："几点了，怎么还不起床？" 你的孩子每天无精打采的，不爱跟你说话。他的脾气也很坏，你说他一两句，他就炸了锅。 而你作为家长，也觉得苦恼。 其实，你的孩子不一定是懒，而是能量低。 （原标题：你的孩子不是懒，是能量低） 一、你的孩子不是懒，是能量低 最近，有一位家长，带着孩子小唐来安肯心理求助。 她说，小唐太懒了，小唐之前非常自律，性格活泼开朗，但这一段时间，全变了。 小唐最开始到了中午十一二点，也不起床。 然后，小唐也不爱做作业，每天发呆，昏昏沉沉的。 慢慢地，小唐演变为开始打游戏，不愿意跟人沟通。 作为家长，看着小唐这样，很耽误学业，而且就要中考了，为了孩子着想，就采取了干预措施。先是断 网，后面又收掉了孩子的手机。 但不料，小唐情绪激动，把家里的电视、手机全给砸了。 随后小唐变得易怒，稍微说小唐一两句，他就会暴跳如雷，最后不得不休学。 这位家长，不知道自己的孩子是怎么回事，怎么变得这么懒，这么叛逆。 安肯心理也接过很多类似的心理咨询，像小唐这样的例子，并不在少数。 什么意思呢？ 就是每个人都有自己的能量层级，就类似手机电量。 当孩子能量强的时候，他 ...

Core Viewpoint - The article discusses the modern challenges of emotional stability in an age of information overload and social media, emphasizing the importance of inner freedom and emotional autonomy as a means to maintain mental health and well-being [1][6]. Group 1: Historical Context - Ancient Chinese scholars, such as Su Shi, have deeply understood and practiced the concept of emotional stability, illustrated by the story of Su Shi and the Zen master Fo Yin, which highlights the difficulty of achieving true emotional detachment despite theoretical understanding [2][3]. Group 2: Psychological Insights - Modern psychology supports the ancient wisdom, with theories like emotional autonomy indicating that mature individuals can distinguish their emotions from others and do not base their self-worth on external evaluations [4]. - Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) aims to help individuals identify and change negative thought patterns, thereby regaining control over their emotions [5]. - Mindfulness training encourages individuals to observe their emotions without becoming entangled in them, reflecting the ancient ideal of remaining unaffected by external disturbances [5]. Group 3: Contemporary Challenges - The current societal landscape presents unprecedented challenges to emotional autonomy, with social media fostering a performative identity, consumerism linking happiness to material possessions, and information overload fragmenting attention [6]. - The difficulty of maintaining inner peace amidst external chaos is underscored by the quote from Pascal, emphasizing the struggle to be alone and quiet in today's world [6]. Group 4: Strategies for Emotional Stability - Developing awareness is crucial; individuals should observe their emotional responses and identify automatic thought patterns [7]. - Clarifying personal values helps individuals resist societal pressures and maintain their emotional integrity [8]. - Establishing boundaries is essential for protecting one's mental space, allowing individuals to say "no" when necessary [8]. - Pursuing a sense of meaning by focusing on personal growth rather than external validation enhances resilience against emotional fluctuations [8]. - The goal is not to achieve a perfect emotional state but to cultivate the ability to coexist with emotions, acknowledging their presence without being controlled by them [8].