（原标题：最好的情绪价值，是自己给的） 最近这一两年，情绪价值特别火。 他总是觉得自己不够好，觉得自己很差劲，然后发起对自己的审判，无情的鞭挞自己。这在心理学上， 就叫做"自我攻击"。 比如，遇事时，习惯性把责任归咎在自己身上。觉得自己什么都做不好，哪哪都不行。他在这样的想法 漩涡中，不停地攻击自己，久久走不出来。 所谓情绪价值，通常指的是一个人在与他人相处时，能够带给对方积极情绪的能力。 和能提供情绪价值的人相处是很好的，但也有一些人习惯于向外索取情绪价值，等别人安慰，靠别人认 可，被别人理解等等。而一旦没有得到，就会难过半天。 其实，与其纠结有没有被爱，有没有被认可、被理解，更重要的是锻炼出强者思维，给自己多多的爱。 天天追着别人要情绪价值，不如把自己修炼成"情绪银行"。 那么具体该怎么做呢？这4点分享给你。 一、停止自我否定 为什么有的人会索取情绪价值？其实就是自我认同度低，自我价值感低，对自己不自信，总是自我否 定。 人往往对自己是最严厉的。当你不允许自己犯错，不允许之际不完美，向自己追责的时候，生活很难好 起来，你也感受不到世界的美好。 所以不要自我否定，正如一本书中提到的：你要相信，每个人都是这个 ...

有时候，你会不会觉得自己的孩子有点懒？ 你也经常会对孩子说："几点了，怎么还不起床？" 你的孩子每天无精打采的，不爱跟你说话。他的脾气也很坏，你说他一两句，他就炸了锅。 而你作为家长，也觉得苦恼。 其实，你的孩子不一定是懒，而是能量低。 （原标题：你的孩子不是懒，是能量低） 一、你的孩子不是懒，是能量低 最近，有一位家长，带着孩子小唐来安肯心理求助。 她说，小唐太懒了，小唐之前非常自律，性格活泼开朗，但这一段时间，全变了。 小唐最开始到了中午十一二点，也不起床。 然后，小唐也不爱做作业，每天发呆，昏昏沉沉的。 慢慢地，小唐演变为开始打游戏，不愿意跟人沟通。 作为家长，看着小唐这样，很耽误学业，而且就要中考了，为了孩子着想，就采取了干预措施。先是断 网，后面又收掉了孩子的手机。 但不料，小唐情绪激动，把家里的电视、手机全给砸了。 随后小唐变得易怒，稍微说小唐一两句，他就会暴跳如雷，最后不得不休学。 这位家长，不知道自己的孩子是怎么回事，怎么变得这么懒，这么叛逆。 安肯心理也接过很多类似的心理咨询，像小唐这样的例子，并不在少数。 什么意思呢？ 就是每个人都有自己的能量层级，就类似手机电量。 当孩子能量强的时候，他 ...

Core Points - The article discusses the emotional struggles of a sensitive individual who experiences heightened awareness of others' reactions and self-doubt, leading to mental exhaustion [1][2][3] - It highlights the connection between the individual's sensitivity and their upbringing, particularly the strict parenting style that instilled a fear of criticism and a need for perfection [2][4] - The response emphasizes that high sensitivity is a common trait, affecting approximately 15% to 20% of the population, and is not inherently negative [3][4] Group 1: Sensitivity and Self-Doubt - The individual describes a pattern of overthinking and self-criticism triggered by others' comments or reactions, leading to prolonged emotional distress [1][2] - There is a recognition that this sensitivity is linked to early experiences with a critical parent, which has shaped their self-perception and response to feedback [2][4] - The article suggests that this internalized criticism manifests as a persistent "inner critic" that undermines self-worth [4][6] Group 2: Coping Strategies - The response offers practical strategies to break the cycle of negative thinking, such as adopting an "observer perspective" to assess thoughts without immediate acceptance [5] - It encourages replacing catastrophic thinking with more realistic assessments of situations, helping to mitigate the emotional impact of perceived criticism [5] - Establishing small habits of self-acceptance and self-compassion is recommended, including daily affirmations and journaling to counteract self-criticism [5][6]

Core Insights - The article emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to make mistakes and the high tolerance for error in life, suggesting that life is a vast trial-and-error process [5][22][40] Group 1: Anxiety and Decision-Making - Anxiety often stems from overthinking and fearing mistakes, leading to missed opportunities [4][16] - Many individuals are overly concerned about the costs of trial and error, which prevents them from taking action [16][18] - The article highlights a story of a person who hesitated to change jobs due to fear of failure, illustrating the common struggle of lacking the courage to take risks [10][14][15] Group 2: Resilience and Growth - The narrative of a student who faced setbacks but ultimately succeeded through perseverance demonstrates that life's challenges can lead to unexpected opportunities [24][36][70] - The article encourages a mindset shift towards viewing life as a series of learning experiences rather than a strict path to success [73][74] Group 3: Strategies for Embracing Mistakes - The concept of "reckless law" suggests taking action without excessive hesitation can lead to new opportunities [48][56] - Rejecting rumination and focusing on the present can alleviate unnecessary stress and regret [57][63] - Maintaining a long-term perspective allows individuals to see past failures as stepping stones to future success [66][70]