Group 1 - The article discusses the impact of modern technology on interpersonal communication, highlighting the convenience it brings while also noting the pressure of constant connectivity [1][2] - There is a growing expectation for immediate responses, which can lead to anxiety for both the sender and receiver of messages [5][6][7] - The article suggests that individuals can manage their expectations and reduce anxiety by focusing on self-care and engaging in tangible activities [8][9][10] Group 2 - The piece reflects on the nostalgia for older communication methods, such as landline phones, which allowed for more focused conversations without the pressure of immediate replies [11][14][15] - It emphasizes the importance of setting personal boundaries regarding communication, advocating for the right to not respond immediately to messages [25][26] - The article concludes that respecting individual boundaries and acknowledging the dynamics of relationships can lead to healthier interactions, rather than being bound by the expectation of instant replies [27][28]

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