近两年来，因求职问题产生心理波动的来访者日益增多。当"985毕业生难就业""名校生送外卖"等新闻 频繁登上热搜，当经济下行的压力传导至校园，那些曾经坚信"名校必须匹配好工作"的父母们，正经历 着一场静默的心理转变——他们逐渐放下对"完美职业路径"的执念，在焦虑与反思中，尝试与孩子携手 直面充满未知的未来。 心理现实：从"理想模板"到"看见真实" 过去几十年，"名校等于好工作"的公式深深烙印在中国父母的认知里。985、211高校被视为阶层跃升的 通行证，金融、互联网大厂、公务员则是"成功就业"的标配答案。这种执念背后，是父母一代的成长经 验——"我们当年考上好大学就端上了铁饭碗""名校学历是人生护城河"。 （原标题：心理观察｜当"名校光环"撞上就业寒冬：父母正在经历怎样的心理转身） 来访者毛女士表示，儿子前一天去一家公司面试，结果又没能通过。儿子沮丧地对她说："妈，我又没 过面试，是不是我太没用了？""听到儿子说这句话，我心里真是五味杂陈。"毛女士说道，"我既心疼儿 子，又满心焦虑——那份我们心心念念的工作究竟在哪里？" 王女士同样因孩子求职受挫前来咨询。"我对女儿有点怨愤，怎么这么不让人省心，隔壁某某家的孩子 ...

神译局是36氪旗下编译团队，关注科技、商业、职场、生活等领域，重点介绍国外的新技术、新观点、新风向。 编者按：即使是视角上的一点点转变，也能改变你的整个情感体验。本文来自编译，希望对您有所启发。 计划泡汤、航班取消、失望至极，我们自然的反应往往是：烦躁、恼怒、焦虑、失望。但有时，如果我们退后一步，重新解读正在发生的事情，突然间一切 都显得更加可控。 心理学家将这种转变称为"认知重构"，这是一种强大的实践方法，当你面对内心的阻力或挑战时，会非常有用。 1. 认知重构如何改变你的情绪 认知重构是一种通过重新解释情境来改变其情感影响的方式，是管理情绪最有效的策略之一。与其试图压抑自己的感受，不如改变故事背后的感觉。 心理学家詹姆斯·格罗斯（James Gross）是这项研究的关键人物，他证明了认知重构比单纯压抑情绪能带来更好的情感结果。经常使用这种方法的人通常焦 虑感更低、不那么容易抑郁，且更具韧性。 这种转变并不意味着忽视现实或假装一切正常，而意味着通过不同的视角看待同一情况。当你改变视角时，往往也会改变情绪。 这不是说要过度乐观，而是要求在思维方式上保持灵活，从不同角度看待情境，例如将"这次延误会毁了一切"转变 ...

Core Insights - The essence of true wealth lies not in financial assets but in the habits and learning experiences accumulated over a lifetime, as illustrated by Buffett's personal reflections [1] - The warning that while most people plan their retirement funds, the wise focus on cognitive restructuring to enhance their entire life [3] Group 1: Mindset and Learning - Individuals facing midlife crises often have three limiting beliefs: viewing learning as only for the young, equating stability with stagnation, and using "no opportunities" as an excuse for inaction [4] - Successful individuals possess three cognitive keys: transferable skills are more valuable than job-specific skills, cognitive compounding is more beneficial than financial compounding, and having an anti-fragile system is superior to a career moat [4] Group 2: Practical Strategies - Buffett's "5-hour rule" emphasizes five daily practices: deep reading (preferably physical books), cross-disciplinary networking (meeting three outsiders monthly), deliberate output (writing, speaking, teaching), physical investment (one hour of exercise equals eight hours of cognitive upgrade), and cognitive reboot (a half-day of ignorance weekly) [6] - A CFO from a listed company in Hangzhou exemplified this by transitioning to a digital consulting expert through systematic learning, resulting in a fivefold increase in hourly wage [7] Group 3: Actionable Advice - The ultimate advice for middle-aged individuals is to maintain a learning pace that intimidates the youth [9] - Common traits among successful individuals include transforming anxiety into a learning checklist, replacing single experience with a combination of abilities, and viewing every crisis as an opportunity for upgrade [9] - Immediate action items include replacing evening screen time with 90 minutes of morning learning, meeting an industry professional who is difficult to understand, and establishing a personal "cognitive hedge fund" with a diverse skill set allocation [11]