Before we go forward, I'd like to take you back, not years, but decades. Picture yourself when you're 5 years old. I know. I'm so cute.What made you feel safe or seen. What made you feel curious or hopeful. We start life full of wonder.And even in that not knowing, we feel the world deeply. We sense when something fits and when it doesn't. When we're five, we have that kind of clarity unclouded by expectation.I'm a developmental psychologist and a professor and for the past 25 years I've tried to carry that ...

I want to start with a drawing. It's the one I made when I was six. A flying cat, sun with sunglasses, the sky was literally upside down, and the moon was on the grass.And finally, a starfish house. I didn't make it because it was practical. I didn't care about whether it was good or if it was realistic.I made it with the kind of joy that doesn't ask for permission. Now, fast forward, we grow up. We learn to meet deadlines, sit still, and do the right thing.But in the process, we lose something. Not because ...