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Core Insights - The article discusses the phenomenon of self-criticism and internal conflict, particularly among kind-hearted individuals who often experience mental exhaustion due to excessive moral standards and self-blame [4][5][11]. Group 1: Self-Criticism and Internal Conflict - The narrative highlights that overly kind individuals tend to engage in self-blame and internal conflict, leading to mental health issues such as depression [4][7]. - The character Mr. Toad from the book "Mr. Toad Goes to See a Psychologist" exemplifies this behavior, as he constantly criticizes himself despite his good intentions and hard work [5][6]. - The article emphasizes that excessive self-reflection and moral obligation can result in a cycle of self-criticism, causing emotional distress [11][23]. Group 2: The Impact of Empathy - The article notes that individuals with high empathy often absorb others' negative emotions, which can lead to personal mental strain and "empathy fatigue" [20][21]. - A study mentioned in the article indicates that while empathetic individuals can accurately describe others' feelings, they also experience increased stress levels as a result [18][19]. - The article suggests that maintaining emotional boundaries and allowing oneself to be less involved in others' issues can alleviate this internal conflict [21][24]. Group 3: Changing Perspectives - The narrative encourages individuals to shift their perspective from self-blame to external attribution, suggesting that one should not take on the burdens of others unnecessarily [24]. - It advocates for a more balanced approach to kindness, where individuals prioritize their own well-being alongside their concern for others [24][25]. - The article concludes that being a "bad good person"—someone who is kind but also sets boundaries—can lead to a healthier mental state and reduce internal conflict [11][24].