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Group 1 - The article emphasizes the difficulty some individuals face in saying "no" to others, often due to a desire to please and maintain social harmony [3][4][5] - It discusses the psychological traits associated with people who habitually seek to please others, such as "sociotropy," which focuses on making others happy [4][5] - The article highlights the potential negative consequences of excessive people-pleasing, including anxiety and a loss of self-identity [5][10] Group 2 - The article provides strategies for confidently saying "no," including self-monitoring one's responses to requests and reflecting on the motivations behind the need to please [6][8][9] - It suggests taking a pause before responding to requests to allow for better decision-making and consideration of personal boundaries [11][12] - The article encourages starting with small refusals to build confidence in saying "no" in more challenging situations [13][14] Group 3 - It recommends using assertive language, such as "I don't" instead of "I can't," to convey a sense of agency when declining requests [15][16] - The article introduces the concept of relational refusal, which emphasizes the connection with others while explaining the refusal, making it more humanized [16][17] - It advises individuals to observe others' refusals to understand that saying "no" is a common and manageable part of social interactions [18][21]