（原标题：最好的情绪价值，是自己给的） 最近这一两年，情绪价值特别火。 他总是觉得自己不够好，觉得自己很差劲，然后发起对自己的审判，无情的鞭挞自己。这在心理学上， 就叫做"自我攻击"。 比如，遇事时，习惯性把责任归咎在自己身上。觉得自己什么都做不好，哪哪都不行。他在这样的想法 漩涡中，不停地攻击自己，久久走不出来。 所谓情绪价值，通常指的是一个人在与他人相处时，能够带给对方积极情绪的能力。 和能提供情绪价值的人相处是很好的，但也有一些人习惯于向外索取情绪价值，等别人安慰，靠别人认 可，被别人理解等等。而一旦没有得到，就会难过半天。 其实，与其纠结有没有被爱，有没有被认可、被理解，更重要的是锻炼出强者思维，给自己多多的爱。 天天追着别人要情绪价值，不如把自己修炼成"情绪银行"。 那么具体该怎么做呢？这4点分享给你。 一、停止自我否定 为什么有的人会索取情绪价值？其实就是自我认同度低，自我价值感低，对自己不自信，总是自我否 定。 人往往对自己是最严厉的。当你不允许自己犯错，不允许之际不完美，向自己追责的时候，生活很难好 起来，你也感受不到世界的美好。 所以不要自我否定，正如一本书中提到的：你要相信，每个人都是这个 ...

Group 1 - The core issue revolves around the husband's behavior of complimenting and flirting with younger women, which causes discomfort for the wife [1][2] - The husband's actions may stem from workplace demands in the sales industry, where building rapport through compliments is common, but there is a distinction between professional and inappropriate behavior [3][4] - The wife's feelings of insecurity and jealousy are normal reactions to perceived threats to the intimacy of their relationship, and her concerns should not be dismissed as over-sensitivity [3][4] Group 2 - Communication strategies suggested include using "I language" to express feelings without assigning blame, which can help in discussing the issue constructively [4] - Establishing mutual agreements on behavior in public settings can foster a healthier relationship dynamic, such as focusing on each other's strengths and avoiding private meetings with opposite-gender clients [4] - The importance of self-worth and personal growth is emphasized, suggesting that the wife should not let comparisons affect her value and should engage in activities that enhance her self-esteem [4][5]