（原标题：亲子沟通必会的"通用公式"，家长收藏） 没有天生的成功父母,也没有不需要学习的父母,成功的父母亲都是不断自我学习提高的结果。 现在给各位家长推荐四个家庭教育的通用公式: 公式一:表扬孩子的通用公式 表扬=陈述事实 确认事实的可贵性 表达感受 表达期望 身体接触。 表扬是让孩子继续努力的有效手段,所以必须做对动作才能收到预期的效果。一个完整的表扬,必须按程 序做对每一步。 1、陈述事实。即孩子做对了什么事情,家长要明确地告诉孩子,他什么地方做对了,什么行为被肯定和欣 赏。 这样做的结果是,孩子知道自己因为什么被表扬,他下次可以继续做下去。 2、确认事实的可贵性。即让孩子知道家长为什么要表扬他,让他知道被表扬的真实理由,知道自己行为的 真实尺度,从而对自己行为有一个正确的评估,产生自豪感。 3、表达感受。家长一定要表达为孩子高兴的感情。这种为孩子取得成绩而替孩子高兴的感受,是一股巨 大的推动力,使孩子会继续把事情做下去。 这里的关键是家长为孩子高兴(即家长说"我真的为你高兴!"),而不是家长自己高兴(即家长说"我真高 兴!")。 4、表达期望。即家长表达完为孩子取得好成绩而高兴的感受之后,还要表达新的期 ...

Core Insights - The article discusses the complex reasons behind children's depression and gaming addiction, particularly among middle school students during their developmental phase [1] - It emphasizes the importance of communication, family environment, and structured routines in addressing these issues [2][3][4][5][6][7] Group 1: Understanding the Problem - Children may experience depression and gaming addiction due to academic pressure, social challenges, and feelings of helplessness [1] - The allure of gaming, with its competitive nature and reward systems, can lead to escapism from real-life challenges [1] - Family dynamics, such as parental relationships and parenting styles, significantly impact children's emotional well-being [1] Group 2: Communication Strategies - Effective communication is crucial; parents should approach discussions with empathy and understanding, avoiding criticism [2] - Parents should listen actively to their children's feelings and share their own experiences to foster trust [2] Group 3: Family Environment - A warm and harmonious family atmosphere is essential for recovery; parents should model positive behavior and avoid conflicts in front of children [3] - Establishing family routines and engaging in activities together can enhance family bonds and reduce gaming dependency [3] Group 4: Routine and Structure - Parents should help children create a balanced daily schedule to improve their sleep patterns and overall health [4][5] - Encouragement and supervision are necessary to help children adhere to their routines without feeling criticized [5] Group 5: Balancing Gaming and Learning - Parents should guide children to view gaming as a part of life, not the entirety, and help them find a balance between gaming and academic responsibilities [6] - Setting specific gaming times as rewards for completing schoolwork can motivate children to engage in both activities [6] Group 6: Seeking Professional Help - If a child's depression is severe, parents should seek professional assistance, including psychological evaluation and support from teachers [7] - Community resources and activities focused on youth mental health can also aid in the child's recovery [7]

Group 1 - The article discusses the developmental stage of children around the age of two, highlighting their growing awareness of self and the expression of opinions and needs [1] - It emphasizes that the frequent use of "no" by toddlers is not merely rebellion but a declaration of growth, as they learn to assert their autonomy and understand the world around them [1] - The importance of maintaining order in a child's environment is noted, as disruptions can lead to feelings of chaos and insecurity for the child [1] Group 2 - The article suggests that parents should allow children to express their emotions when order is disrupted, which aids in their acceptance of reality [1] - It highlights the significance of emotional repair in parent-child interactions, where acknowledging mistakes and apologizing can demonstrate the importance of feelings and rules [2] - The long-term impact of parenting strategies is discussed, indicating that children will internalize feelings of being valued and the existence of rules, which contributes to their overall sense of security [2]

Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes the importance of effective communication in parent-child relationships, suggesting three key phrases that can help improve understanding and connection between parents and children [40][41]. Summary by Sections Allowing Debate - Parents should allow children to express their thoughts and engage in debates, as this fosters independent thinking and enhances communication skills [10][18]. - A case study of a mother, Liu Ayi, illustrates how her initial authoritative approach led to conflict with her daughter, but after reflecting on her methods and allowing for open dialogue, their relationship improved significantly [11][14][18]. Empathy Over Criticism - The article advocates for empathy in communication rather than criticism, highlighting that criticism can damage a child's self-esteem and create distance in relationships [20][28]. - Examples from popular culture, such as a father bonding with his son through shared activities instead of criticism, demonstrate the positive impact of empathetic communication [21][25]. Balancing Self-Love and Parenting - The notion that parents must sacrifice their own needs for their children is challenged, with the article stating that self-love and love for children can coexist [30][38]. - The narrative includes a reference to a mother who prioritizes her own well-being while also caring for her child, illustrating that a healthy balance can lead to a more harmonious relationship [35][36]. Conclusion - The article concludes that by allowing debate, practicing empathy, and balancing self-love with parenting, parents can create a nurturing environment for their children to thrive [43][44].

从报道看，小凯作为学校曾经的尖子生，父母最终将他拒之门外，高考成绩或许是导火索，但绝不 是主要原因。中小学时期，小凯都是班里的佼佼者，初中便考入长沙名校，自此后，父母在学校外租房 陪读，工作日回老家工作、每周五轮流从老家赶到长沙照顾儿子，这样劳碌奔波夫妻俩坚持了五年。在 父母看来，转折点就是在高中，小凯强烈要求父母为自己买手机，且承诺会好好读书，但却在往后的日 子里缺乏自控能力、成绩一落千丈，父母同小凯的矛盾也就此产生。 面对这样的情况，父母采取了砸手机的极端做法，少年便以更极端的烧掉暑假作业、剪断空调线和 砸烂家里东西等方式进行"回击"，冷战持续到小凯成年当天，父母退掉陪读的房子、停掉他的生活费， 再也没有来长沙看过他。事件本身还有更多看似细碎微小的矛盾，但每一次都十分激烈且频繁，在这个 过程里，父母难免感觉含辛茹苦却没有得到理解和感恩，也就愈发心寒。 据风芒新闻报道，近日，就读于湖南长郡中学的尖子生小凯沉迷手机后翘课、成绩下滑，高考物理 类仅考575分，被父母扫地出门，断了生活来源。父母的做法是否合适，引发网友热议。 父母在小凯成年后将其扫地出门，不外乎是想表达"成年人要对自己的行为负责"。虽然不少网友表 ...

中学教师：孩子们和父母在一起的时间比较少，所以就从手机上寻找这种陪伴。因为手机上有很多社交平台，可以满足孩子这方面的一个需求。 家长：大部分家长因为现在需要工作，所以没有人陪同孩子的时候家里有这个手机陪着他，他就会沉迷这块儿，我觉得这个是占很大的原因。 学生：我有的时候控制不住我自己，就想用手机玩很多。我也知道这样对自己身体不好，但是我自己又管不了自己，因为太想玩了。有的时候他们玩手机， 我就想他们都玩手机，我也想玩，然后就拿自己手机开始玩。 刚才您看到的是记者在北京、山东、河北等地，围绕青少年手机使用情况，采访了部分学生、家长和老师。可以看出，随着智能手机的普及，不少家庭都存 在因为孩子玩手机产生的矛盾。今年5月是第二个全国学生心理健康宣传教育月，我们来关注手机和孩子心理健康之间的关系。在上海，2020年至2025年， 上海12355热线青少年心理咨询量从4万余人次增至10万余人次。今年前4个月的咨询中，亲子沟通类问题和情绪问题占比近五成，孩子沉迷手机是家长求助 的焦点。 电话一头的家长，孩子今年上五年级。平时父母陪伴少，交给外公带。寒假期间，这个孩子借查作业之名破解外公手机密码，沉迷游戏一个多月未被察觉。 ...