MacTalk . 墨问创始人，极客时间创始人。关注 AI 产品、科技创业，也写随笔和故事。笃信长期主义，用文字与 你同行。 本文来自微信公众号： MacTalk ，作者：池建强，原文标题：《给还在大厂工作的朋友 21 条忠 告》 当我14年前加入谷歌时，我以为这份工作就是写出优秀的代码。我只说对了一部分。但待得越久， 我越意识到能真正成长的工程师未必是代码写得最好的那批人——而是那些懂得如何在代码之外游刃 有余的人：在人与人之间、政治、一致性以及不确定性里找到路径。 以下文章来源于MacTalk ，作者池建强 这些教训我希望自己能更早知道。有些能让我减少几个月的挫败感；有些花了我几年时间才彻底理 解。它们不涉及具体技术——技术变化太快而不值得押重注——它们讲的是一个又一个项目、一个又 一个团队里不断重复的模式。 我分享这些，是因为我曾经得到许多工程师的慷慨相助并获益良多。把篇文章看做我力所能及的一次 回馈吧。 1.最好的工程师痴迷于解决用户问题。 沉迷于一项技术、到处找机会使用它，这件事充满诱惑。我做过，大家都做过。但创造最大价值的工 程师是反向思考的：他们对用户问题产生深度痴迷，让解决方案从这种理解中自然 ...

Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes that true networking and social connections are built on mutual value exchange and personal strength, rather than mere flattery or attempts to ingratiate oneself with those in higher positions [5][41][60]. Group 1 - The essence of long-term relationships lies in strength attraction and value exchange, rather than trying to please those who are more capable [5][41]. - The story of Pip from Dickens' "Great Expectations" illustrates the futility of trying to gain acceptance through superficial means, as it ultimately leads to disappointment and financial trouble [7][12][13]. - The article argues that excessive flattery and attempts to ingratiate oneself only lead to being looked down upon by others [26][32]. Group 2 - The narrative of individuals who have experienced the pitfalls of trying to network without sufficient personal value highlights the importance of self-improvement over social climbing [24][30][34]. - The experiences of various individuals, such as Li Shanglong and Lu JJ, demonstrate that genuine connections are formed when one has something of value to offer, rather than relying on forced social interactions [30][36][58]. - The article concludes that high-quality social interactions are based on mutual benefit and the ability to provide value to others, rather than seeking help without offering anything in return [58][59].