fractures. expectations. Now by show of hands, how many of you have felt, confused, nervous, anxious in these 30 seconds that I was saying nothing.What you were experiencing was an internal fracture because you had your expectations. This is a TED talk. I should be talking and I wasn't.So, I broke your expectations. I work with extraordinary people. I work with the gifted and the sensitive and the polymaths.And what we have uncovered is that expectations are the primary cause of fractures. This kind of frac ...

[Applause] [Music] All right, here's what we're going to do. Heads we go north, tails we go south. That coin flip launched a camping trip that changed my life.We had all of the camping gear packed up in the car. We had the entire long weekend free. What we didn't have was a plan.It was a little unusual for us. We were both media producers, so we were used to keeping a schedule down to the second. But there we were all packed up, nowhere to go.So, we flipped a coin and that freed us up. We could do anything. ...

[Music] [Applause] Have you ever been in a room full of people and still felt completely alone. I'm sure everyone in this room has experienced this feeling at least once in their life. My name is Christy and for me it was freshman year.My first lecture was at 8:00 a. m. sharp, and of course, I showed up at 7:30, hoping that being early would calm my nerves.I parked my car, took a deep breath, and stepped out of my PT cruiser into the hot, humid, August air. Immediately, I started sweating. My baby hair star ...

[Music] Fracture. expectation. Now, by show of hands, how many of you have felt, confused, nervous, anxious in these 30 seconds that I was saying.what you were experiencing was an internal factor because you had your expectations. This is a TED talk. I should be talking and I wasn't.So, I broke your expectations. I work with extraordinary people. I work with the gifted and the sensitive and And what we have uncovered is that expectations are the primary cause of fractures.This kind of fracture, it starts mu ...

[Applause] [Music] One average Wednesday, I took a quick survey of my channels of communication. That day there were 125 emails, 300 text messages, five business appointments, five phone calls, one personal appointment, and dinner with my family. All told, there were substantial conversations with 34 different individuals that day.And yet, as I sat down that evening, as on many nights, I felt lonely. not the only one noticing that something is off. Former US Surgeon General Vivic Murthy says we're in an epi ...

[Applause] [Music] All my life I've been surrounded by wells. Not the kind dug into the earth. I'm from the city. So, the only things I know about digging in the earth is subways, tunnels, and sewers, but a different kind of well. And I didn't always know what that meant until one morning it became crystal clear. It was 4:02 a.m. my birthday. the exact time my mother Heather Clemens would call every year without fail to pray over me and pray me into a new year of life. She believed that if she blessed my li ...

Silence has a sound. It's the kind that sits in your chest when the snow starts falling heavy and the sun disappears for days. Right.You learn that connection isn't optional. It's survival. And in that silence, stories become a lifeline.A good story can melt the distance between people. It can pull neighbors out of isolation and remind us that even in the coldest places, we still belong together. In Alaska, storytelling isn't how we just isn't how we pass the time.It's how we stayed connected, how we felt t ...

[Music] [Applause] Are you right or you left? an educated elite or a member of the working class, a climate change doomer climate change denier? Do you see diversity, equity, and inclusion as liberation or discrimination? These aren't just questions anymore. We've turned them into weapons and we're pointing them at each other. at strangers, our neighbors, even our own family members. Conversations have become loyalty tests. Disagreements, battles for our own tribe. In the 46 years I've been alive, this is t ...

Educational Psychology & Child Development - The core question children constantly ask is "Am I safe with you?" [3] - Children may lie as a defense mechanism when they feel unsafe, not necessarily out of defiance or manipulation [7] - Stress or perceived threats activate the amygdala, overwhelming the prefrontal cortex and leading to emotionally driven reactions [8] - Harsh reactions from adults can trigger toxic stress in children, hindering learning and regulation [15] Intervention Strategy: The REWIRE Framework (CALM) - **C**enter: Regulate your nervous system by taking a breath [13] - **A**ffirm: Empathize and name the storm you see without judgment [13] - **L**ead: Connect instead of controlling [13] - **M**eet: Address their nervous system need [13] - Authentic trust and respect are key to building bridges between chaos and calm [14] Impact & Results - A school district in Massachusetts saw office referrals drop by nearly 80% and school suspensions lower to 40% after training staff to be the calm [16] - Rewiring responses with calm can improve a child's ability to learn and regulate within weeks [15]

Embracing uncertainty. I can tell you that if you would have took a time travel time machine back and talked to me about whether or not I would be on a stage talking about embracing uncertainty when I was in high school, I would have looked at you like you had a horn growing out of your head. I remember in 10th grade there was a Christmas choir concert and I was part of a trio that was going to sing, but I just couldn't get this this this harmony. It didn't feel right. And I at the time couldn't read music ...