Halo semuanya, kembali lagi di Para berkelas. Aku Bilanov dan aku orang yang enggak enakan. Dari kecil aku berangkat sebagai manusia yang sulit sekali untuk mengenal diriku sendiri. Aku ingin memperkenalkan diri aku, tapi aku ingin juga teman-teman semua di sini untuk mengenal sosok yang paling jarang kalian ajak ngobrol. Yes. Diri kita sendiri per hari ini. Kapan terakhir kalinya kalian ngobrol dengan kalian sendiri? Kapan terakhir kalinya kalian podcast dan punya conversation yang lebih detail dengan diri ...

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You've all heard the phrase, "Put your own oxygen mask on first before helping others. " Now, I want you to be honest with me. If you were sitting on a plane next to mom, best friend, grandpa, and they were panicking in an emergency, do you really think you'd be able to do that? Honestly, me either, but that's why you're here today. The problem is is that most of us were raised and conditioned to be nice women, not kind women. We've been told to smile, say yes, don't make waves, but niceness often comes at ...

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When I was in grad school at Sarah Lawrence, I light designed two shows at the same time. And I remember one day sitting at my console, venting to my lighting mentor about how the side lights don't look right and the back fixtures are focused wrong and how the heck am I going to light a set when there are no scenic items in place. And he turned to me and he said, "Take a walk." And I said, "No, I need to work." He responded, "Let's go outside for 5 minutes." So, we stepped outside of the theater to a beauti ...

Core Idea - Order necessitates boundaries to differentiate itself from randomness, akin to a cell needing a membrane or a country needing borders [1] Philosophical Implication - Beauty and structure require defined limits, suggesting a need for clear distinctions between inside and outside [1]

[موسيقى] ما جدا لحتى يعني موجوده ما حدش نجيب على ح فس فلا ما في هذا فضاء ربنا اي بقى خذيه مش حقي فهم يمين مثلا برض جدا فهي النقط اللي احنا اساسا النقطين مشان قضيه وثلاث في افضل مره وسیم جه حسب was bedeut وجود داره با استفاده می‌کنه هو كيف در واقع یکی و كان مساله مساله كده ماح قلت معروست اینجا میکنن زندگی میکنن حرکت می‌کنه و به از طریق مثلا جیتی که يس وجود يعني ما يفترض يطور على الشركه و اینا در کل باقی که در وجود داره دیگه موجود وبعدين ما تصيب دائما تصح و در واقع این بود که آیا سلای بود که آیا بالح قال لك ق ...

Core Argument - The presentation advocates for healthy egoism, distinguishing it from harmful egoism and narcissism, emphasizing self-awareness, boundary setting, and self-care [5][9][17][18] - It highlights the importance of prioritizing one's own needs to effectively support others, using the analogy of putting on an oxygen mask first on an airplane [4] Defining Healthy Egoism - Healthy egoism involves knowing oneself, one's needs, and how to position oneself in various environments [17] - It includes building boundaries and teaching others how to treat you, as people will treat you based on their understanding unless instructed otherwise [18] - Self-care is presented as a right, not a luxury, essential for restoring energy [18] Contrasting with Unhealthy Egoism and Narcissism - Unhealthy egoism is characterized by controlling and manipulating others, seeking constant spotlight, and disregarding the impact of actions on others [5][6] - Another example is being overly focused on career development to the detriment of relationships and personal well-being, leading to others feeling used or dismissed [7] Practical Techniques for Boundary Setting - The "I message" technique is introduced, involving describing the situation, naming the emotion, explaining why it's important, and suggesting a solution, all without accusatory language [20] - Communicating with care and without guilt or apologies for setting boundaries is crucial for success [22] Real-life Examples - Examples include an assistant overwhelmed by requests from other departments [10][11] and a woman stressed by a Saturday morning call from her boss [11][12][13], illustrating the consequences of not setting boundaries - Another example is a woman who comes home with heavy shopping bags and is only asked when dinner will be ready, highlighting the need to teach family members how to treat her [15][16] Benefits of Healthy Egoism - Psychologists suggest that self-focus improves life and career, enhances mental health by reducing depression and anxiety, and increases resilience in office environments [23] - Setting boundaries is presented as an act of love for oneself and others [23]

Burnout Prevalence & Impact - A study in Southeast Asia reported Indonesia's burnout prevalence at 63% in 2022, with 37% experiencing high levels and 26% very high levels [6] - Burnout negatively impacts mental health, productivity, and relationship quality [7] The Importance of Pauses & Boundaries - The speech emphasizes the importance of taking breaks to protect well-being and prevent burnout [2][3] - Setting boundaries is crucial for protecting personal space and time [8] - An experiment showed that short breaks during a 45-minute task improved attention and performance [9][10][11] Strategies for Implementation - The speech suggests responding calmly and firmly to those who expect constant availability [13][14] - It recommends communicating boundaries clearly and consistently, while remaining flexible [15][16] - The speech encourages using time off for activities like meditation or journaling [15] Addressing Potential Challenges - The speech acknowledges that setting boundaries may lead to misunderstandings or perceptions of being less committed [13][14] - It suggests prioritizing tasks and completing what can be done first to enjoy time peacefully [16]

[Music] [Music] [Applause] Good afternoon everyone. Very nice to see you all and I'm very privileged to be here today. Thank you for having me.So let's start. >> Are you all good. Let's begin.I have a question for you all. Do you guys struggle to say no just to create space for others. Or how many of you say yes just to please others.I've been here too. I used to say yes to everything, but today I want to share what I have learned from that behavior. I'm a professional model and creator.And usually a lot of ...