[Music] Did you know that one in three of us are emotionally neglected. So that means in a room of 200 people here today, 66 of us are emotionally neglected. And we have invisible wounds. invisible wounds that stem from childhood needs that we didn't get.And all of this has been ingrained in our subconscious patterning. 90% of our thoughts, feelings, actions, behaviors are all driven by our subconscious patterning. And pretty much this all happens before puberty hits.Just like the rings of these trees that ...

Core Message - The talk challenges the binary view of optimism versus pessimism, suggesting a shift in perspective to overcome limitations [1][2] - It introduces the "Control Alt Shift" framework as a method for personal reboot and reclaiming one's self [9][17] Self-Improvement Strategy - **Control:** Emphasizes taking control of immediate situations to manage stress and regulate emotions by activating the prefrontal cortex and calming the amygdala [10][11] - **Alternate:** Advocates for cognitive reframing to challenge negative thoughts and create new neural pathways through neuroplasticity [13][14] - **Shift:** Encourages redefining identity beyond achievements, acting from a place of purpose and values rather than fear or perfection [15][16] Psychological Well-being - The talk addresses the pressure of perfectionism and the mental exhaustion associated with tying self-worth to winning [4][5] - It highlights the importance of self-compassion and breaking free from self-criticism to prevent mental "glitches" [6][7] - The ultimate goal is to achieve freedom and authenticity by aligning actions with personal values, leading to resilience and thriving [16][17]

Core Argument - Parenting presents opportunities to address unexamined aspects of oneself, as children mirror parental behaviors and emotions [1] - Children's emotional regulation relies on co-regulation, highlighting the importance of parental self-regulation [8] - Disregulation cycles between parent and child can escalate situations, emphasizing the need for conscious responses [9][10] - Healing in challenging parenting moments involves awareness, acknowledgement, and acceptance of emotions and responses [13][14][15] Psychological Mechanisms - Mirror neurons facilitate understanding and mirroring of others' behaviors and emotions [3] - The autonomic nervous system triggers fight, flight, or freeze responses, with the nervous system constantly assessing safety cues [3][4] - Individuals are hardwired to perceive the minds of others, suggesting children reflect parental stress and tension [6][7] Practical Application - Recognizing and validating children's perspectives is crucial, especially if one grew up feeling unheard [12] - Connecting with oneself and communicating regulation and safety are essential for co-regulation with children [18] - Shifting from unconscious reactivity allows for a new legacy of emotional safety for children [23]

Core Argument - The speaker's journey from selective mutism to professional Katak dancer highlights art's power in communication and identity formation [3][4][5] - The speaker experienced a shift from joyful expression to constrained performance in professional Katak training, leading to self-doubt [6][7][8] - Dance movement therapy is introduced as a psychotherapeutic tool for emotional, social, cognitive, and physical integration [9][10] - Movement is presented as a primary language, essential for emotional regulation, resilience, and empathy [13][14][16] - The speaker advocates for moving to express rather than impress, rediscovering the body's rhythm and understanding oneself [19][20] Key Concepts - Art as a communication tool for individuals with special needs [4] - The impact of professional training on artistic expression and self-perception [6][7] - Dance movement therapy as a means of holistic integration and healing [10][11] - The importance of movement in emotional regulation and psychological well-being [16][17] - Authenticity and self-discovery through movement [18][19]

Child Psychology and Development - Play is crucial for children's emotional, cognitive, and social development, supporting learning at their own pace and expanding thinking and problem-solving skills [5][6] - Play facilitates emotional regulation, creative thinking, and social connection in children, as demonstrated by the "Bluey" case study [8][9][10] - Make-believe play helps children safely explore and manage emotions like stress, sadness, and frustration [9][10] - Play encourages creative thinking by detaching the meaning of objects, forcing reliance on imagination and enriching language development [11][12] Adult Play and Well-being - Adults can benefit from play by experiencing stress relief, emotional regulation, and improved mood through activities they enjoy [16][17] - Playfulness can be a beneficial emotional resource, allowing adults to navigate situations with resilience and positivity [17] - Play stimulates the brain, improving creative thinking and problem-solving skills in adults [18] - Play builds social connections by creating a safe environment for experimentation, strengthening communication and honesty [19] Incorporating Play into Adult Life - Individuals can make small adjustments to incorporate more of what they enjoy into their lives, identifying their play personality to guide their choices [21][22][23] - Playfulness can be incorporated into working environments through humor and fostering a more playful culture, leading to benefits in creativity and employee well-being [25][26] - Companies are seeing benefits in creativity and employee well-being by fostering a more playful culture [26]