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Group 1 - The article discusses the phenomenon of "time-space anxiety," where individuals struggle to focus on the present due to overwhelming worries about future events and external pressures [1][2] - It highlights the brain's inherent "negative bias" mechanism, which evolved as a survival tool but now leads to excessive anxiety in modern life, triggered by minor stressors [2][3] - The article emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between controllable and uncontrollable factors in life, suggesting that individuals should focus on what they can manage [2][3] Group 2 - Strategies are proposed for managing anxiety, such as breaking down large fears into smaller, actionable tasks to regain a sense of control [4][5] - The article suggests setting boundaries with information consumption, like designating "information quiet hours" to reduce anxiety from constant notifications [5] - It encourages mindfulness practices, such as focusing on breathing and being present, to alleviate anxiety and improve mental resilience [5][6]