Group 1 - The article discusses how seemingly trivial behaviors of parents can gradually harm their children [2][3] - It emphasizes the importance of understanding the impact of parental actions on children's self-worth and development [4][5] Group 2 - Continuous nagging and criticism from parents can lead to children feeling a lack of self-worth and may result in rebellious or overly submissive behavior [3][4][5] - Parents should adopt a more empathetic communication style, focusing on listening and understanding rather than lecturing [6] Group 3 - Excessive demands from parents, regardless of the significance of the issue, can strip children of their sense of autonomy and intrinsic motivation [7][8][9] - Healthy parenting involves allowing children to make choices and learn from their experiences [10][11] Group 4 - Comparing children to others can lead to feelings of inadequacy and the development of impostor syndrome [12][13][14] - Parents should focus on recognizing and celebrating their children's unique strengths and progress [14] Group 5 - Keeping children indoors for extended periods can hinder their physical and mental development [15][16][17] - Outdoor activities and social interactions are crucial for children's growth and well-being [18] Group 6 - Parents often impose adult perspectives on children, which can limit their self-exploration and growth [19][20][21] - Respecting children's individuality and allowing them to explore their interests is essential for their development [22]

Group 1 - The article discusses the application of psychological principles in child education, emphasizing that there are systematic methods to educate children effectively [1] - It highlights the "forbidden fruit effect," where children are more curious about things that are prohibited, suggesting that this can be used positively in parenting [2][4] - An experiment illustrates that telling children not to touch something can increase their curiosity, leading them to explore more [3] Group 2 - The importance of a sense of security in childhood is emphasized, stating that it significantly impacts a child's happiness and development throughout life [5] - Parents play a crucial role in providing this sense of security, which can influence a child's willingness to face challenges and explore new experiences [6] - The article notes that children's expressions of affection, such as seeking closeness to parents, are often rooted in their need for security [7] Group 3 - Sleep is identified as a critical factor in a child's development, with adequate sleep being essential for physical growth and cognitive development [8] - The article warns that parents may inadvertently harm their child's sleep by not addressing underlying fears, such as fear of the dark [9][10] - Recommendations for establishing healthy sleep habits include maintaining a consistent sleep schedule and creating a conducive sleep environment [10] Group 4 - The "overload effect" is introduced, explaining that excessive criticism can lead to increased resistance and negative feelings in children [11][12] - It suggests that parents should avoid repetitive nagging, as it can trigger adverse reactions in children and diminish the effectiveness of their guidance [12]

Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes the importance of nurturing a psychologically healthy child by highlighting three key behaviors that parents should avoid, which can lead to mental health issues in children. Group 1: Avoiding Performance-Based Value - Parents should not let academic performance be the sole source of a child's self-worth, as this can lead to feelings of inadequacy and a lack of parental love [3][4] - The pressure to achieve high grades can result in psychological issues for children, as they may feel that their value is solely based on their academic success [5][6] - A supportive family environment, where love and acceptance are prioritized, is crucial for developing a child's healthy personality [7] Group 2: Avoiding Control in the Name of Love - Parents should refrain from controlling their children under the guise of love, as this can lead to a lack of autonomy and chronic stress in children [8][10] - Over-involvement in a child's decisions can result in them feeling powerless and dependent on others, leading to emotional emptiness and a lack of purpose [12][10] - The concept of "hollow disease" describes individuals who, despite appearing successful, struggle with feelings of loneliness and meaninglessness due to their upbringing [12] Group 3: Acknowledging Children's Emotions - Parents must not ignore or dismiss their children's emotions, as this can lead to emotional suppression and a breakdown in trust [12][14] - Children often seek emotional support from their parents, and when their feelings are invalidated, it can create a barrier in their relationship [13][15] - Continuous disappointment from parents can lead to a psychological defense mechanism known as "disappointment isolation," causing children to withdraw from their parents [18][20]

Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes the importance of maintaining a calm and understanding approach in parenting, particularly when children make mistakes, advocating for emotional restraint and constructive communication instead of criticism [5][10][35]. Group 1 - The article illustrates a scenario where a family remains calm during a minor mishap on the subway, highlighting the positive impact of a peaceful demeanor on children [4][5]. - It discusses the psychological concept of "overload effect," which suggests that excessive criticism from parents can lead to poorer performance in children [8][10]. - A case study is presented where a child faced severe pressure from parental criticism after a disappointing exam result, leading to mental health issues [10][11]. Group 2 - The article contrasts two parenting styles: one that uses criticism and blame, and another that fosters understanding and acceptance, which helps children learn from their mistakes [10][13]. - It cites research indicating that families who practice "language restraint" during conflicts see their children develop better crisis management skills as adults [13]. - The importance of family meals as a time for connection rather than criticism is emphasized, with studies showing that shared meals contribute to children's emotional stability and confidence [15][17]. Group 3 - The article shares anecdotes of parents who successfully manage their emotions in challenging situations, demonstrating the value of problem-solving over emotional outbursts [22][24]. - It highlights the distinction between wise parents who maintain composure and those who let emotions dictate their responses, suggesting that the former foster resilience in their children [32][35]. - The article concludes with a reminder that a relaxed mindset can lead to a happier family dynamic, encouraging parents to view challenges as opportunities for growth [36][38].

Core Viewpoint - The rising incidence of depression among adolescents is attributed to various factors, leading to the perception that today's children are more fragile compared to previous generations [1]. Group 1: Reasons for Perceived Fragility - Increased attention on children due to smaller family sizes results in heightened scrutiny of their behavior, limiting their personal space and autonomy [2]. - Limited physical activity and outdoor playtime restrict emotional regulation, as exercise is known to release endorphins that improve mood [3]. - Emotional issues are often passed down through generations, with previous generations not addressing psychological problems, leading to a hidden transmission of these issues [4][5][7]. Group 2: Suggestions for Raising Psychologically Healthy Children - Avoid making academic performance the sole source of a child's self-worth, as excessive pressure can lead to psychological issues [9][10][11][12]. - Do not control children under the guise of love, as this can create chronic stress and emotional pain [14][16][17]. - Foster empathy by recognizing children as individuals with their own emotions and needs, allowing for open communication and emotional support [18][19].

Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes the importance of fostering a child's intrinsic motivation through positive reinforcement and effective communication, rather than relying on criticism and pressure [22][27][66]. Group 1 - The author reflects on the challenges of parenting a 12-year-old son who appears lazy and unmotivated, leading to frustration during homework sessions [4][10][12]. - The author realizes that constant criticism may diminish the child's self-worth and motivation, causing resistance and disengagement [22][24][26]. - A pivotal moment occurs during a parent-child activity, where the author learns that excessive nagging can hinder a child's willingness to participate and engage [15][18][20]. Group 2 - The author identifies three key strategies to improve communication and support the child's intrinsic motivation: observing instead of judging, listening and empathizing, and providing positive feedback [30][44][57]. - The first strategy involves reducing criticism and focusing on observing the child's actions to understand their perspective better [33][40][42]. - The second strategy emphasizes changing the communication style to foster a more supportive environment, shifting from demands to genuine interest in the child's feelings and experiences [45][48][50]. - The third strategy focuses on recognizing and celebrating the child's strengths and successes, which can help build their confidence and motivation [61][63][65].