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人生建议:尽早用无人兜底的态度过一生
洞见· 2025-10-09 12:35
洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下 蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的延伸阅读。 ♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听洞见主播韩丹 朗读音频 01 这些年,因为写作需要,我翻阅了很多以前的新闻,其中一例让我印象很深。 2009年,一个23岁的健康青年,在自己家中被活活饿死。 他就是当时震惊全国的"河南第一懒人"杨锁。 他从小就聪明,却从不学习,理由是"我爸妈会养我一辈子"。 后来干脆不去学校,整天躺在家里,饭来张口、衣来伸手,十几岁时连做饭洗衣都不会。 作者: 洞见Moon 直到父母相继去世,失去依靠的他,依然沉溺于被喂养的惯性,最终在无人兜底的现实面前, 走向了生命的终点。 杨锁的例子,很极端,但在生活中幻想别人兜底而遭受挫折的人,不在少数。 人这一生,所有的依赖,都暗中标好了代价。 我有一个发小,从小家里条件就很好,父母经营着一家大酒店。 以当时的眼光来看,小县城里的一个酒店足以保证两代人衣食无忧。 所以他经常逃课上网,还说:那么拼命学习干嘛,大不了我以后就继承家里的饭店。 谁知几年之间,家境破落,他不得不只身南下,在 ...
你忘不了前任,因为没能好好说再见
Hu Xiu· 2025-08-20 12:16
本文来自微信公众号:简单心理 (ID:jdxl2000),作者:寒冰,责编:罗文,题图来自:AI生成 两年前结束一段长程心理咨询时,我和咨询师花了很多时间讨论"分开"的议题。 在那之前,有过的几段恋爱都没能"善终",也曾和最好的朋友绝交,我一度对关系的结束很恐惧。 最后,在温暖的圣诞节前夕,我和咨询师告别,这次好好分开的体验让我多了一些信心——原来"分 手"不是世界上最可怕的事情,也可以很友善;告别一段关系不一定是悲伤的,它也蕴含着自我重建的 契机和资源。 心理咨询师曹雪敏在2017年也经历了一次痛苦的分手,关系在原本计划好的婚礼前夕戛然而止。 后来,她把伤痛变为养分,决定用自己的心理学专业知识帮助更多朋友,于是有了《分手心理学》一 书。书的结尾,曹雪敏写到:"把人生中的危机变成了转机,让我获得了成长。" 几年后,回望这段分手经历,曹雪敏有了更深的感悟,于是我找到她一起聊了聊: 结束一段亲密关系往往都会带来痛苦感,但什么样的分手会造成创伤? 为什么"好聚好散"这么难?当爱消失后,如何对曾经的爱人说再见? 我们这代人成长过程中普遍缺乏好的情感教育,没人教我们如何去爱,更没人谈论不爱了怎么办。但曹 雪敏告诉我,分 ...
《浪浪山小妖怪》登顶,暑期档“黑马”来了
21世纪经济报道· 2025-08-17 02:31
Core Viewpoint - The article highlights the success of the animated film "Wang Wang Mountain Little Monster," which has broken box office records for Chinese 2D animated films and is projected to reach a total box office of 1.7 billion yuan [1][3]. Group 1: Box Office Performance - "Wang Wang Mountain Little Monster" has surpassed 800.79 million yuan in cumulative box office, overtaking three Japanese animated films to become the highest-grossing 2D animated film in Chinese history [3]. - The film is expected to challenge the previous record set by "Big Fish & Begonia," which had a box office of 573 million yuan nine years ago [1]. Group 2: Film Background and Storyline - The film is based on a short from the popular series "Chinese Tales," specifically "The Summer of Little Monsters," maintaining similar artistic style and character design [5]. - The plot follows a little pig monster who, despite facing challenges and lack of recognition, ultimately chooses to help others, conveying a message of kindness and selflessness [5][7]. Group 3: Character Development and Themes - The main character's journey evolves from a desire for recognition to a genuine quest for self-improvement and heroism, reflecting themes of growth and moral integrity [6][8]. - The film's climax reveals the harsh realities faced by the characters, yet they choose to act heroically, emphasizing the importance of friendship and justice over personal gain [7][8].
跨文化语境里的成长之路(新作速评)
Ren Min Ri Bao· 2025-08-04 22:39
Core Viewpoint - The novel "Beyond the Mountain is Cloud" by author Zheng Xin presents a nuanced exploration of three female characters from diverse backgrounds, highlighting their struggles and transformations in an international context, particularly in Switzerland [1][2]. Group 1: Character Development - The character Huang Xiaoxiao evolves from a junior employee to a key figure within her organization, while Suwa transitions from selling dumplings to making significant contributions in the international cultural tourism sector, showcasing a solid narrative of personal growth [2]. - The multi-threaded narrative allows for a reflection of the characters' personalities and destinies, as they shift from seeking external validation to exploring their inner selves [2]. Group 2: Cultural and Geographical Context - The choice of Guizhou and Lausanne as story settings is intentional, as both locations share similarities in natural geography and human environment, creating a meaningful dialogue between the two [2]. - The novel emphasizes the natural beauty and cultural heritage of Guizhou, addressing the challenges of preservation and development, which the younger generation, including the protagonists, can contribute to [2]. Group 3: Themes and Symbolism - The title of the novel symbolizes the contrast between the tangible reality of mountains and the ethereal nature of clouds, representing resilience and the pursuit of dreams, respectively [3]. - The protagonists' return to Guizhou signifies a quest for inner fulfillment and a reflection on rural revitalization and poverty alleviation in contemporary society [3]. - The narrative style is lyrical and subtle, offering a cross-cultural perspective on personal growth and the quest for a poetic existence [3].
《拯救毕加索》:画布之外的人生交响曲
Jing Ji Guan Cha Bao· 2025-07-21 07:06
Core Perspective - The film "Surviving Picasso" presents a unique portrayal of the renowned artist Pablo Picasso, focusing on his complex relationships and personal struggles through the lens of his lover, Françoise Gilot [1][2][8]. Group 1: Narrative Structure - The narrative is centered around Françoise Gilot's perspective, detailing her tumultuous love affair with Picasso, highlighting the age difference and the challenges they face [2][3]. - The film intricately weaves Gilot's personal journey of love and self-discovery with Picasso's artistic life, providing a multi-dimensional view of both characters [2][3][8]. Group 2: Character Development - Anthony Hopkins' portrayal of Picasso captures the artist's multifaceted personality, showcasing his confidence, passion, and self-centeredness, which often leads to conflicts in his relationships [4][5]. - Natasha McElhone's performance as Gilot effectively illustrates her transformation from an enamored young artist to an independent individual, emphasizing her internal struggles and ultimate decision to leave Picasso [4][5][7]. Group 3: Artistic Presentation - The film employs a rich retro aesthetic, vividly depicting the atmosphere of wartime Paris, enhancing the historical context of the narrative [6]. - The musical score complements the emotional landscape of the film, shifting from light and romantic during moments of love to tense and oppressive during conflicts, thereby deepening the audience's emotional engagement [6][7]. Group 4: Themes Explored - The film explores the complexities of love, portraying it as a blend of passion and pain, prompting viewers to reflect on the nature of relationships and personal sacrifice [7][8]. - It also delves into the theme of artistic influence, illustrating how Gilot's experiences with Picasso shape her artistic journey and raise questions about the legacy of artists [7][8].
这届年轻人,正在为“情绪刚需”下单
Sou Hu Cai Jing· 2025-07-15 07:18
Core Insights - The youth demographic is becoming a leading force in the consumption and cultural tourism sectors, shaping new trends and experiences [2] - The concept of "self-indulgent consumption" is rapidly becoming a necessity for young people, reflecting their desire for meaningful experiences [2] Group 1: Consumption Trends - The camping economy in China is projected to reach a core market size of 133.4 billion yuan in 2024, with expectations to exceed 248.32 billion yuan by 2025, contributing to an overall market size of 1.44 trillion yuan [4] - The blind box market is expected to reach 58 billion yuan by 2025, capturing 65% of the global market share, with a compound annual growth rate of 28% [4] - The "谷子经济" (Guzi economy) has seen its market size grow from 120.1 billion yuan in 2023 to 168.9 billion yuan in 2024, with projections to surpass 300 billion yuan by 2029 [4] Group 2: Emotional and Experiential Consumption - Young consumers are increasingly valuing emotional experiences over traditional products, seeking "emotional necessities" through their purchases [16][20] - The rise of immersive experiences in cultural entertainment, such as theater and concerts, has led to significant increases in local economic activity, with hotel bookings spiking by 300% during concert tours [8] - The trend of self-improvement is evident, with over 60% of buyers of knowledge-based courses being under 30, indicating a strong interest in personal development [10] Group 3: Dual Consumption Logic - A report indicates that over 40% of young consumers engage in price comparison before purchasing, while 24.9% do not set a budget for experiential activities [12][15] - This duality reflects a reordering of values, where young people balance frugality in daily spending with a willingness to pay for unique experiences [15] - The consumption of emotional experiences serves as a quick remedy for loneliness and anxiety in a fast-paced, high-pressure environment [20][21] Group 4: Social and Emotional Needs - The demand for emotional connection and support is driving new consumption patterns, as young people seek immediate psychological relief through purchases [17][20] - The need for a robust social support system is highlighted, suggesting that emotional spending may be a response to the inadequacies of traditional social networks [23] - The complexity of young consumers' choices reflects broader societal issues, emphasizing the need for accessible emotional support and community engagement [23]
和优秀的人同行,与舒服的人深交,跟乐观的人相处
洞见· 2025-07-14 10:55
Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes the importance of surrounding oneself with positive, optimistic, and kind individuals to foster personal growth and well-being [5][38]. Group 1: Importance of Relationships - Choosing friends is akin to choosing one's destiny, as the right companions can nurture and uplift an individual [4][38]. - Engaging with optimistic people can enhance one's outlook on life, providing hope and positivity even in challenging times [20][38]. - The article highlights the transformative power of relationships, suggesting that consistent interaction with inspiring individuals leads to significant personal development [10][38]. Group 2: Types of Relationships - Interacting with optimistic individuals helps cultivate a positive mindset, making it easier to face life's challenges [20][21]. - Deepening connections with comfortable individuals fosters a sense of peace and contentment, allowing for genuine enjoyment in companionship [23][34]. - Building relationships with kind-hearted people can create a supportive environment, making life's difficulties more manageable and enriching [37][38]. Group 3: Personal Growth - The article suggests that being around excellent individuals raises personal standards and encourages self-reflection, leading to substantial growth over time [9][10]. - It posits that friendships should not be measured by quantity but by the quality of comfort and mutual understanding [32][34]. - The narrative illustrates that kindness and encouragement from others can significantly impact one's self-esteem and future success [38].
豆瓣九分,治愈十万人的动画原著
Hu Xiu· 2025-05-21 00:57
Core Insights - The book "Strong Wind Blows" serves as an inspiration for individuals in a chaotic society, encouraging them to rediscover their inner strength through long-distance running and hobbies [1] Group 1: Themes of Running and Personal Growth - The narrative begins with a dramatic challenge where a group of university students, led by running enthusiast Haruki, is pushed to participate in Japan's oldest relay race, the Hakone Ekiden, despite their lack of experience [2] - Through the rigorous training and challenges faced, the characters experience a transformation from pain to tranquility, highlighting the natural enjoyment and growth that comes from dedicating oneself to a passion [2] - The protagonist, Azo, learns to focus on running as a means to overcome fears and distractions, emphasizing the importance of mental clarity and determination in achieving personal strength [7][10] Group 2: The Nature of Competition and Individuality - The story illustrates that every runner's journey is unique, with different goals and experiences, making long-distance running a captivating pursuit [18] - The characters, regardless of their abilities, are portrayed as equals in the world of running, reinforcing the idea that value is not solely based on performance but also on the shared experience of striving towards personal goals [19] - Haruki's perspective on the nature of success in athletics suggests that the journey is more complex than simply achieving a goal, as each runner must navigate their own challenges and growth [17]
AI时代的旅行
Zhong Guo Qing Nian Bao· 2025-05-16 02:20
Core Insights - The essence of travel is to break free from daily routines and recalibrate life in unfamiliar settings, highlighting the richness found in desolation and the beauty of human connections [1][4] - AI is increasingly integrated into travel, enhancing planning, personalization, and cultural experiences, while also prompting reflections on the nature of travel in the AI era [1][2] Group 1: The Meaning of Travel - Travel represents a life beyond daily existence, an encounter between individuals and the world, and the most profound journeys stem from authenticity [1][2] - The AI era offers tools for better travel planning, real-time translation, and personalized experiences, making travel more convenient and enjoyable [1][2] Group 2: Cultural Awakening and Personal Growth - There is a resurgence of interest in traditional culture among the youth, as evidenced by the popularity of traditional clothing and instruments, emphasizing the importance of experiencing cultural heritage firsthand [2] - Young travelers are encouraged to embrace challenges and personal growth through travel, reflecting on historical figures who sought knowledge and experience through exploration [2] Group 3: Human Connections - In an increasingly virtual world, the value of genuine human interactions during travel is emphasized, encouraging openness to kindness and shared experiences [2]
DeepSeek推荐 用10本书解码人生答案→
Yang Shi Xin Wen· 2025-04-22 22:50
Group 1 - The article emphasizes the importance of books as silent companions that convey thoughts and emotions through words, unfolding quietly when needed [1] - It highlights the significance of World Book Day on April 23, showcasing a selection of ten impactful books that reflect various stages of life, from youth to old age [3] Group 2 - Khaled Hosseini's novel depicts the friendship and betrayal between two boys, Amir and Hassan, against the backdrop of a war-torn Afghanistan, ultimately leading to Amir's journey of redemption [4] - Hermann Hesse's "Demian" explores the protagonist Sinclair's quest for self-discovery, guided by a mysterious figure named Demian [7][8] - Yang Mo's "Song of Youth" portrays the struggles of young intellectuals during a historical period in China, emphasizing their fight against oppression and their patriotic ideals [9] - Jack Kerouac's "On the Road" narrates the adventures of the protagonist and his friends, reflecting the exploration and search for meaning behind the rebellious lifestyle of the "Beat Generation" [11] - John Williams' novel follows the life of William Stoner, a university professor, exploring themes of existence and the human condition amidst historical neglect [13] - Qian Zhongshu's work critiques the spiritual dilemmas and weaknesses of intellectuals in 20th-century China, using the character Fang Hongjian's life as a lens [16] - Karl Ove Knausgård's autobiographical series "My Struggle" delves into the author's life experiences, capturing the essence of ordinary life with emotional depth [18] - The narrative of a terminally ill patient reflecting on life and humanity, emphasizing the courage to live deeply even in the face of death [19] - Gabriel García Márquez's "One Hundred Years of Solitude" is a landmark of magical realism, chronicling the rise and fall of the Buendía family and the town of Macondo, intertwining myth and history [21] - Stefan Zweig's "Moments of Humanity" presents historical vignettes that highlight pivotal moments and figures in history, illustrating the interplay of individual actions and historical events [24][25]