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任何长久的关系,都是反人性的
洞见· 2025-10-12 12:34
洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价 值、有意思的延伸阅读。 作者:CC 来源:每晚一卷书 (ID: JYXZ89896) 相对占有,绝对自由。 ♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听洞见主播安东尼 朗读音频 美国社会学家阿莉·霍克希尔德,通过研究发现: 维持关系需要反人性,去付出大量的"情绪劳动"。 从人的天性出发 ,人都喜欢被理解 ,被倾听,被赋予情绪价值。 可如果一方承担了过多的情绪劳动,而另一方却一直予取予求,那么这段感情迟早会分崩离析。 任何一段关系,都需要违背人性,才能长久维系。 01 长久的关系,要反索取。 知乎上有人问过一个问题:为什么一段关系会破裂? 有个高赞回答是: 有来、无往,有付出、无回应。 博主赵兰说过她和朋友杨丽的故事。 两人是同学,毕业后也在同一城市工作,关系一直比较熟络。 但在这段关系里,杨丽一直是索取方。 两人一起出去吃饭,每次都是赵兰付钱,杨丽总是找各种理由开溜。 赵兰买了香水,杨丽也要先拿个小瓶子灌走一半。 对于这些,赵兰虽心有不快,但看在两人是朋友的份上,也没有过多 ...
女人旺自己的3个好习惯,越早养成,人生越顺!
洞见· 2025-10-12 04:00
Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes the importance of self-investment and personal development for women to enhance their life opportunities and overall well-being, highlighting three key habits that can lead to a more prosperous life [3][4]. Group 1: Key Habits for Personal Growth - Habit 1: Maintaining a positive attitude and smiling can create a favorable personal aura, attracting good fortune [7]. - Habit 2: Investing time and energy in self-improvement, such as education and skill development, is crucial for increasing personal value [10]. - Habit 3: Dressing well and cultivating a good personal image can significantly impact how others perceive and treat an individual [12][13]. Group 2: Importance of Pearls - Pearls are presented as a symbol of elegance and personal empowerment, enhancing one's aura and confidence [16][18]. - Wearing pearls can elevate the appearance of even simple outfits, making them look luxurious [19][21]. - The article promotes a special live event featuring 京润珍珠, a reputable pearl brand, emphasizing the quality and affordability of their products [22][32][35]. Group 3: Product Recommendations - The article lists various pearl jewelry items, such as classic pearl chains and unique designs like 南阳金珠 and 澳白, highlighting their aesthetic appeal and versatility [44][52][61]. - Special attention is given to the design and quality of the pearls, ensuring they are suitable for different occasions and personal styles [75][87]. - The promotion includes exclusive offers and discounts during the live event, encouraging participation [100].
读懂《明朝那些事儿》,我顿悟了极致的力量
洞见· 2025-10-11 12:35
♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听洞见主播亚楠 朗读音频 洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的 延伸阅读。 作者:CC 来源:每晚一卷书 (ID: JYXZ89896) 惟精惟一。 最近,我去了解了《明朝那些事儿》的作者当年明月的经历。 我才发现他是一个把史书读到极致的人。 他5岁开始读《中华五千年》,这本书被他反反复复读了20遍,封面都被翻烂了。 11岁起,他读《二十四史》《资治通鉴》……并每天坚持阅读这类书籍至少2小时。 15岁后,他又继续读一些晦涩难懂的明史专著,累计研读史料超6000万字,阅读时长超过15年。 工作之后,他也一直保持着手不释卷的习惯。 正是这日复一日看似枯燥乏味的阅读生活,才成就了他非凡的人生。 在《明朝那些事儿》这本书中,也有很多像当年明月一样,用数十年磨一剑的人。 读懂了他们的经历你就会明白: 这世上所谓的强者,都把一件事做到了极致。 朱元璋:拼到极致 有网友曾评价明朝开国皇帝朱元璋:开局一个碗,装备全靠打。 朱元璋出身社会底层,父母都是贫苦农民,并不能给他的人 ...
入世第一课:不挂脸
洞见· 2025-10-11 12:35
♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听洞见主播晏娇 朗读音频 百家讲坛的王立群教授讲了一辈子历史,细数千古风流人物他发现: "有一种人一看就是干大事的,这种人从来不把喜怒表现在脸上,无论遇到什么事儿都是沉着冷静的。" 自古以来高段位的强者不是都没有情绪,而是能喜怒不形于色,兜住自己心底的波澜。 01 《项羽本纪》里有个耐人寻味的细节。 垓下被围时,项羽夜闻四面楚歌顿时"大惊失色"。 这个曾经"力拔山兮气盖世"的西楚霸王在帐篷里对虞姬唱出悲歌。 "项王泣,左右皆泣,莫能仰视。"他这一哭,哭散了八千子弟兵的军心。 主帅的绝望瞬间化作实质的战斗力衰减,第二天项羽突围时跟随他的只剩八百骑。 反观他的对手刘邦,彭城之战被项羽打得丢盔弃甲,父亲妻子都被俘虏。 逃到荥阳收集残部时,他却能笑着对萧何说:"输得惨好啊,这下知道该怎么赢他了。" 身边的士卒看到主公还能谈笑风生,惶惶军心顿时安定大半。 职场如战场,免不了遇到突发状况和意外挑战。 作者:洞见·瑾山月 你越慌越容易失了分寸,把崩溃的情绪传导给他人,进而影响整个团队。 那些能在职场中稳步前行的人,未必能力最强,但一定最善于管理脸上的情绪。 在北京当实习记者的时候,我的带教记者李姐是团 ...
原来成年人睡得爽不爽,不在姿势而在于工具!
洞见· 2025-10-11 12:35
作为一个每天 伏案 8小时+的手机重度用户 ,去年我的肩颈终于扛不住发出了严重抗议 —— 急诊室里,医生看着我的核磁片子直摇头: "你这颈椎,比加班还辛苦!" 洞见(DJ00123987)——不一样的观点,不一样的故事,3000万人订阅的微信大号。点击标 题下蓝字"洞见"关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的延伸阅读。 普通孩子想要逆袭?关键在于这一点 预约直播,教你培养孩子思辨力 不敢置信 也是被医生 "狠批"一通才后知后觉,我们每天都在 用各种姿势 "谋杀"自己的颈椎: 要知道颈椎天生有一道精妙的 C型生理曲线 ,这道弧线,是颈椎健康的关键防线。 低头玩手机、瘫着刷视频、伸着脖子看电脑 … 这些日常动作都在无情地压迫、拉直这道生命线, 硬生生把颈椎逼上弯路! 如果你的枕头是: 更讽刺的是,当我们以为夜晚会是颈椎的"睡眠修复时间",实际上是在"帮倒忙" —— 因为市 面上很多枕头,根本不懂颈椎那道娇贵的"C型弧线"! 扎心的是,我发现一说到肩颈,身边朋友个个都像复制粘贴一样吐槽: 那么 → 平躺时,脖子下面空荡荡;侧睡时,肩膀被迫 "加班" 支撑脑袋 …… 你的颈椎每天都 在被动 " 上夜班 " ! 这种 " ...
底层家庭最大的悲哀:一天到晚都在怄气
洞见· 2025-10-11 12:35
洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下 蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的延伸阅读。 作者:CC 来源:每晚一卷书 (ID: JYXZ89896) 家人有过,不宜暴怒,不宜轻弃。 ♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听洞见主播周周 朗读音频 《时代周刊》曾经发起一项调查,探讨底层家庭有哪些特点。 得出的一个结论 是:贫困家庭的相处模式,大多是指责多过体谅,抱怨多过支持。 现实生活中,很多底层家庭也是如此,常常因为一点鸡毛蒜皮的小事,屡屡开启家庭大战。 但家人之间,就如同锅与勺,难免磕磕碰碰。 倘若遇到一点问题,就争执不休,互不退让,势必会闹到水火不容,甚至分崩离析的地步。 一个家庭最大的悲哀,就是一言不合就怄气。 怄气,伤的是家庭的福气。 中国曾有一部大火的电视剧《金婚》,里面佟志一家的不幸,值得无数家庭警醒。 主人公佟志和文丽因相亲结缘,刚结婚那几年,也是十分恩爱,如胶似漆。 再加上佟志在国企工作,文丽又是人民教师,两人的日子也是羡煞旁人。 可很快,两人的矛盾就凸显了出来。 文丽是一个爱洁净的人,刚结婚的时候,佟志还愿意为了对 ...
想要男孩情绪稳定,可以频繁跟他说这10句话,他会越来越强大
洞见· 2025-10-11 12:35
Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes that raising emotionally stable and strong boys requires love and acceptance, rather than strict discipline or criticism. It suggests that parents should communicate effectively with their sons to foster resilience and emotional intelligence [41]. Summary by Sections Understanding Boys' Behavior - Boys are often perceived as more difficult to raise than girls due to their impulsive behavior and emotional volatility, which can be attributed to slower development of the prefrontal cortex [6][7]. - Parents need to invest more patience and energy to manage their sons' high energy levels and rebellious phases [7]. Key Phrases for Emotional Development - "No one is perfect; making mistakes is part of growth." This encourages boys to accept their imperfections and reduces fear of failure [9][10]. - "You don't have to know everything, but be brave to ask why." This promotes curiosity and reduces anxiety about not understanding [12]. - "Failure simply tells you that this method doesn't work; try another." This helps boys reframe failure as a learning opportunity [13][14]. - "Even if you cry, you are still a man." Accepting emotional expression is crucial for boys' emotional health [17][18]. - "You can be angry, but express it properly." Teaching boys to articulate their feelings helps them manage emotions better [20][22]. - "Your feelings are important; it's normal to have emotions, and we understand." Validating emotions builds a sense of security [25][27]. - "Some things you can't control, but you can choose how to face them." This fosters a sense of agency and reduces feelings of helplessness [28][30]. - "There are always more solutions than problems; let's think of solutions together." This encourages problem-solving skills [34]. - "I believe you can do it." Parental trust boosts boys' self-efficacy and confidence [35][36]. - "Whenever you need, mom and dad are behind you." This provides unconditional support and security [40]. Conclusion - The article concludes that nurturing strong boys is about teaching them to accept imperfection, express emotions, and solve problems, which are essential skills for their emotional and psychological development [41].
一个真能护腰的好东西,贴合人体曲线,久坐腰不酸,轻松拥有神仙体态
洞见· 2025-10-10 12:35
Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes the importance of maintaining proper posture to avoid health issues and improve overall appearance, particularly in the context of prolonged sitting and the use of ergonomic products to support good posture [2][20][50]. Summary by Sections Posture and Health Risks - Poor sitting posture can lead to various physical issues, including wider hips, flat buttocks, and increased abdominal size, affecting both genders [6][10]. - Long-term poor posture can result in serious health problems such as cervical and lumbar disc herniation, and muscle strain [14][15]. - Research indicates that using mobile devices can place significant stress on the cervical spine, equivalent to the weight of an 8-year-old child [8]. Ergonomic Solutions - The article introduces ergonomic products from the brand "思菲其" (Sifqi), including a lumbar support cushion and a neck support pillow designed to promote proper posture [22][29]. - The lumbar support cushion is designed based on ergonomic principles to maintain the natural S-curve of the spine, providing adequate support and reducing lumbar pressure [29][70]. - The neck support pillow is crafted to align the cervical spine in a healthy C-curve, alleviating neck strain and discomfort [38][125]. Product Features and Benefits - The lumbar support cushion features a combination of a backrest and seat cushion, designed to automatically adjust to the user's body shape, promoting a natural sitting posture [29][76]. - The neck support pillow is lightweight and adjustable, made from high-quality materials that provide comfort without adding pressure to the neck [140][157]. - Both products are marketed as effective tools for improving posture and reducing discomfort associated with prolonged sitting, making them suitable for office workers and students [88][149]. Pricing and Availability - The lumbar support cushion is priced at 139 yuan, down from 198 yuan, while the neck support pillow is available for 75 yuan, reduced from 128 yuan [53][106][159]. - The article encourages consumers to compare prices on various platforms, highlighting the affordability of these ergonomic products [59].
一个人最大的荒唐:对大事麻木,对小事敏感
洞见· 2025-10-10 12:35
洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的 延伸阅读。 作者:yebo 来源:每晚一卷书 (ID: JYXZ89896) 学会分清轻重缓急 。 ♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听洞见主播一凡 朗读音频 法国哲学家帕斯卡尔曾说: "人们对小事的过分敏感,和对大事的麻木不仁,是一种奇怪的颠倒。" 许多人经常对鸡毛蒜皮的事耿耿于怀,不断纠缠、死磕。 而面对真正重要的事情,却又变得异常麻木,甚至毫不在意。 这种本末倒置的活法,终会让人将生活过得无比错乱。 01 对小事敏感,是自我消耗的源头。 《菜根谭》中有句话:"大聪明的人,小事必朦胧。" 而那些对小事敏感的人,却总喜欢在无关紧要的事上锱铢必较。 久而久之,将有限的精力和时间,投入到毫无意义的对抗中,最终只会无限透支自我。 1. 过度在意外界的评价。 作家王心傲刚写作时,经常把作品发到网上。 有次,他写了篇文章传上去,评论区立即出现了很多负面留言: 这种文章也好意思发出来,文笔太烂了;文字垃圾,小学生水平…… 王心傲看到后非常气愤,立马打字回击过去,却 ...
少跟孩子生气,他脑子还没长好
洞见· 2025-10-10 12:35
♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听洞见主播亚楠 朗读音频 在陪伴孩子成长的过程中,我猜你也经历过数次情绪一下子失控的瞬间。 洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的 延伸阅读。 作者:瑞秋 来源:瑞秋三思 (ID: Racheland3kids) 孩子的世界跟我们想的不一样。 孩子们啊,总有办法让我们瞬间炸毛,把本来平静的一天搅得鸡飞狗跳。 我想到前几天的一个早晨,我正忙着准备三个孩子的早餐,以及他们要带到学校的午餐。 那段时间通常是我一天中最忙碌的阶段,我必须在极短的时间内做完一系列事情,并确保不出任何差错;因为任何一个小插曲,都会打乱我的 节奏,影响效率。 那天我正在煎蛋,大儿子嘻嘻哈哈地下楼准备吃饭,手里还拿着一双随手揉成团的袜子。 拿着就算了,他居然还像抛球一样,边走边把袜子往空中抛。 结果,万万没想到,那团袜子竟然正好落进了我煎蛋的锅里。 作为一个正在做饭的人,这简直是无法忍受的场景。 我立刻怒火中烧,对着他怒吼:看看你干的好事!袜子能当球吗?厨房和餐桌旁边能乱扔东西吗?这锅蛋还能吃 ...