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真心劝大家:不要轻易介入别人的因果
洞见· 2025-09-02 12:35
扬好自己的帆,莫去撑他人的船。 ♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听洞见主播云湾 朗读音频 心理学家卢熠翎曾在一档节目中说: 洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下 蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的延伸阅读。 作者: 易奥 来源: 帆书 樊登讲书 (ID: readingclub_btfx) "每个人都有自己命运的流转,有他自己的成败、生死。 如果别人没有提出要求,你就去帮助他,那么就会掉在别人因果的陷阱当中。" 有时候,我们看到别人深陷困境,总会于心不忍,忍不住给出建议或是施以援手,以为能够救 人于水火,但结果往往事与愿违。 随意介入他人的课题,未必能解救对方,反而会让自己背负上他人的因果。 人各有路,在这尘世间,每个人都有自己绕不开的南墙和难关。 充分尊重他人的命运,也不轻易介入任何人的课题,才是成年人该有的清醒。 介入别人的课题=背负别人的命运。 有位匿名网友,在论坛上分享了一桩让他后悔不已的旧事。 他大学毕业后留在了杭州,那个时候待遇和发展都很不错,想到老家的发小也在找工作,便想 着能帮一把是一把,主动邀请他一起过来 ...
我离开了“原生公司”,却没能走出创伤
Hu Xiu· 2025-08-04 04:09
Core Points - The concept of "original company trauma" describes the emotional struggles faced by employees due to negative experiences in their first job or early career, which can have long-lasting psychological effects [1][2][3] - Many young professionals experience recurring trauma from their initial workplace, which manifests in various ways, such as anxiety triggered by familiar sounds or situations [6][9][12] - The trauma often stems from systemic issues within the workplace, where employees feel pressured to conform and suppress their emotions, leading to a cycle of self-blame and fear [20][32][36] Group 1 - "Original company trauma" refers to the significant negative experiences in early career stages that leave lasting psychological impacts [2][3] - Employees often internalize their experiences, leading to feelings of inadequacy and anxiety that persist even after leaving the company [11][12][19] - The pressure to conform and the fear of authority can create a toxic work environment, making it difficult for employees to voice their concerns or leave [20][32][36] Group 2 - The experiences of individuals like Wang Ke, Tina, and Xia Mi illustrate the pervasive nature of workplace trauma, highlighting how it can affect mental health and job performance [6][9][12] - The emotional scars from early career experiences can lead to physical symptoms and a long-lasting impact on self-esteem and workplace relationships [14][30][34] - The societal and structural factors contributing to these traumas include high competition for jobs, lack of clear career paths, and the normalization of unhealthy workplace dynamics [37][43][44] Group 3 - Healing from workplace trauma requires both individual efforts and systemic changes within organizations to create healthier work environments [39][42][43] - Establishing transparent evaluation mechanisms and improving labor laws can help mitigate the effects of workplace trauma and support employee well-being [43][44] - A supportive workplace culture that respects individual dignity and promotes growth can serve as a healing environment for those affected by original company trauma [41][44]
心理学|不必回应别人的恶意
Jing Ji Guan Cha Bao· 2025-06-27 00:26
Core Insights - The article emphasizes the importance of not responding to malicious comments, suggesting that silence is a more effective psychological defense than retaliation [1][6][7] Group 1: Reasons for Responding to Malice - Individuals often feel compelled to respond to malice as a form of self-protection, activating a "fight or flight" response when hurt [2][3] - The desire for fairness drives many to believe that not responding equates to accepting blame, leading to internalized feelings of inadequacy [2][3] - Responding to malice can consume significant psychological energy, akin to fighting in a quagmire where the more one struggles, the deeper one sinks [3] Group 2: Consequences of Responding to Malice - Engaging with malice can trap individuals in a "self-justification trap," where they inadvertently play by the aggressor's rules [3] - Responses to malice can amplify its spread due to the "negative bias" theory, where negative information is more memorable and impactful [3] Group 3: Strategies for Dealing with Malice - Distinguishing between "facts" and "opinions" is crucial, as malice often stems from personal emotions rather than objective truths [4] - Practicing "not engaging" is a form of psychological boundary-setting, allowing individuals to maintain emotional control [4][5] - Techniques such as "psychological detachment" can help individuals pause and reassess the situation before reacting [4] Group 4: Long-term Benefits of Not Responding - Not responding to malice can lead to greater emotional stability, reducing susceptibility to anger and fostering a peaceful mindset [6] - Relationships may become more relaxed as individuals stop feeling the need to prove themselves, leading to mutual respect [6] - Each instance of not responding strengthens psychological resilience, making individuals less vulnerable to future harm [6]
聊聊3个容易被误解的心理学概念
3 6 Ke· 2025-06-20 00:00
Group 1 - The article discusses the increasing popularity of psychological concepts in public discourse, highlighting the potential for misinterpretation and misunderstanding of these concepts [1] - It aims to clarify three commonly misunderstood psychological concepts to provide a clearer understanding [1] Group 2 - The first concept is "separation of tasks," originating from Adler's psychology, which emphasizes that individuals should focus on their own responsibilities and not take on others' issues [2][4] - The article notes that this concept is particularly relevant for individuals who tend to overextend themselves, such as perfectionists, highly sensitive individuals, and those with low self-esteem [4][5] - It stresses the importance of recognizing one's own "circle of control" and accepting what cannot be controlled, which can alleviate internal conflict and emotional distress [5][6] Group 3 - The second concept is "living in the moment," which encourages individuals to focus on the present rather than being preoccupied with past regrets or future worries [9][10] - The article clarifies that living in the moment does not mean neglecting long-term planning but rather being fully engaged in the current task at hand [10][12] - It suggests that practicing mindfulness and focusing on sensory experiences can enhance one's ability to live in the moment [13] Group 4 - The third concept is "self-acceptance," which is fundamental in positive psychology and involves reconciling the gap between one's ideal self and real self [14][15] - The article addresses common misconceptions about self-acceptance, emphasizing that it does not mean ignoring one's flaws but rather adjusting expectations to align with reality [15][16] - It concludes that true self-acceptance fosters motivation for personal growth and achievement, as it allows individuals to recognize their worth and capabilities [19][20]
工作不内耗最高法则:眼里有事,心中无人
洞见· 2025-06-12 10:12
作者:洞见muye 洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下 蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的延伸阅读。 我想说的是,职场毕竟是做事的地方,不是做人的地方。 过度在意同事的评价和领导的态度只会消耗自己。 一个人工作不内耗的秘诀只有一个: 眼里有事,心中无人。 01 作家李筱懿年轻的时候在一家公司担任秘书。 初入职场的她,因为业务不熟练,时常遭到同事们嘲笑。 狮子从不在意绵羊的看法。 ♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听洞见主播楚翘 朗读音频 有朋友跟我吐槽说,他们单位里同事间勾心斗角,宫斗戏都没有那么精彩。每天光是处理复杂 的人际关系,就已经身心俱疲。 我听了很是理解,一个单位就是一处江湖,利益争端在所难免。 李筱懿却毫不在乎,她每天只全神贯注做好自己的事。 一个月的时间,她将各种秘书书籍读了个遍,随后将这些知识熟练地运用到工作中。 当同事们发现她越来越成熟,越来越能干时,背后的议论自然也就消失了。 俞敏洪在演讲中说过这样一段话: "不要太关注你周围人的声音,一辈子最重要的是你必须不断提高自己,让自己每年都变得更 加值钱,这才 ...