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朋友越多,人越孤独
洞见· 2025-08-10 12:35
洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下 蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的延伸阅读。 当我们敢于孤独,才真正拥有了人生的掌控权。 ♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听洞见主播周周朗读音频 在《荒野会谈第二季》中,主持人席瑞提到过一个现象: "随着碎片化社交而来的,是人际交往的厚度越来越稀薄。我们可能有很多朋友,但还是会感 到孤独。" 作者: 洞见jinian 以前总觉得一个人的生活太寂寞,以为朋友多了,就可以摆脱孤独。 但现实却是,朋友越多,反而越容易孤独。 正如颜如晶在《奇葩说》里所说: "不合群只是表面的孤独,合群了才是内心的孤独。" 身边人来人往,但只有你知道,不过是把自己塞进了别人的热闹里。 听过一个寓意深刻的比喻: 人生就像俄罗斯方块,朋友越多,你消失得越快。 很多时候,你以为是在社交,其实只是在丢失自己,让自己陷入更深的孤独中。 鲁迅曾写过一个故事。 主角魏连殳在众人眼里,是个活脱脱的异类。 他白天是假意奉承的行尸走肉,在人群中笑声不断。 但到了晚上就夜不能寐,焦虑到吐血。 到最后,魏连殳抑郁成疾,年纪轻轻就去世了 ...
一个人成熟的标志:不让任何人零成本地接近你
洞见· 2025-08-10 12:35
洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的 延伸阅读。 真正成熟的善良,不是无条件付出,而是懂得计价。 不是所有的善良都应该被滥用,也不是所有的关系都值得被维持。 允许别人零成本接近你,看似善良,其实是在给别人伤害你的机会。 ♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听洞见主播佳音朗读音频 博主 @南风 刚参加工作时,是个典型的老好人。 只要同事一提帮忙,他二话不说就会答应。 明明跟同事不顺路,但他还会隔三岔五捎同事回家。 甚至有次为了替同事代班,他还牺牲了自己回家探亲的假期。 但时间久了,他发现,同事们只是跟他表面要好,心里却把他当成了免费的劳动力。 有没有发现:你身边总有一些人,不用付出任何代价就能靠近你。 他们占用你的时间、消耗你的精力,最后还让你满心疲惫。 说到底,你所有不设防的善意,都是递给对方刺向你的利刃。 01 看到一则提问:为什么别人敢在你身上做坏事?敢对你肆无忌惮? 有个高赞回答是:因为你太廉价,让人觉得在你身上做坏事,可以不付任何代价。 太轻易得来的善良,不会被人珍惜,只会被辜负。 作 ...
《道德经》中有一句话,几乎可以解决生活所有的问题
洞见· 2025-08-10 12:35
Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes the wisdom of "Tao" from the "Tao Te Ching," suggesting that understanding and adapting to life's changes can lead to resilience and success in the face of adversity [3][4][5]. Group 1 - The concept of "Tao" is described as the underlying force governing the universe, which operates through opposites and transformations [3][4][10]. - The article illustrates that in difficult situations, one should maintain a positive outlook, as challenges often conceal opportunities for growth [13][30]. - Historical examples, such as Laozi's life and the story of Huang Ba, demonstrate that patience and adaptability can lead to eventual success after hardship [18][26][29]. Group 2 - The article discusses the principle of "weakness as a strategy," where showing humility and restraint can be more effective than direct confrontation [35][36]. - The story of Chu Zhuang Wang illustrates how strategic patience and the ability to conceal one's strength can lead to overcoming powerful adversaries [35][46]. - It emphasizes that true strength lies in knowing when to retreat and when to act, advocating for a balanced approach to challenges [48][49].
能量高的人,内心戏都很少
洞见· 2025-08-09 12:34
♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听 洞见主播韩丹朗读音频 美国国家科学院做过一项研究,结果显示:心里想法越多的人,自身的能量越少。 你有没有过这样的体验? 某一天你心里很乱,想东想西,这天即便你什么都没干,一天下来你仍然会感觉疲惫不堪,仿佛去工地扛了五百斤的砖头。 这是因为,自我控制需要消耗资源,当资源不足时,个体即处于一种能量缺失的状态。 洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的 延伸阅读。 作者:洞见·安娜贝苏 幸福就是不多想。 脑子里念头太多,一个接着一个,等你觉察到自己想太多的时候,能量已经被消耗了。 相反,迟钝一点,少思少想,越专注于手头当下的事情,你才能始终活力满满。 01 避免过度投射 英国心理医生科莉诺曾讲过一个案例。 玛丽是一位心思细腻的女孩,却在刚工作那年陷入抑郁状态。 科莉诺仔细了解才发现,她的烦恼完全是自己强加给自己的。 有一次,她出外勤回来,看到同事们都在喝咖啡。 玛丽觉得同事买咖啡也不叫上自己,瞬间有一种被孤立的感觉。 她在心里臆测:原来大家都不喜欢我。 这件小事, ...
做人,小事要大度,大事要绝情
洞见· 2025-08-09 12:34
洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的 延伸阅读。 小事不纠,不困于方寸;大事不惧,不失于分寸。 ♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听 洞见主播楚翘朗读音频 蔡康永说:人际关系,是用来成全自己的。 然而现实生活中,太多人在该装傻的时候太聪明,该绝情时又假装大度,耗费了巨大的心力。 与人交往是一场修行,修的是拎得清的智慧。 大事不糊涂,小事不纠结,凡事有主见,一个人才能在复杂的人情世故中活得潇洒自如。 小事要大度:留三分余地于人,留三分退路于己。 知乎博主 @清风徐来 有位很奇葩的同事。 他总在下班时"恰好"跟博主同路,搭便车成了惯例。 他雨天视博主的车为专车,酷暑天甚至要求提前开空调。 更过分的是,博主桌上的零食、文具,连朋友送的限量咖啡都常被他顺走。 博主却从未计较,只图个清净和气。 直到某天深夜,博主接到急电,父亲突发心脏病需做搭桥手术。 他焦头烂额筹钱时,往日热络的朋友要么关机,要么推脱。 绝望之际,账户突然到账五万元,备注栏写着那个同事的名字。 他非常感慨:曾经"爱占小便宜"的人,竟成 ...
中年醒悟:舍偏门,进窄门,悟空门
洞见· 2025-08-09 12:34
Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes the importance of making wise life choices, particularly in middle age, by avoiding shortcuts, choosing less popular paths, and accepting the inevitability of change and impermanence [5][30][57]. Group 1: Avoiding Shortcuts - The article discusses the futility of seeking shortcuts in life, illustrated by the story of Ding Xiaohuai, who relied on connections rather than improving his skills, ultimately leading to his marginalization [7][12][15]. - It highlights that those who habitually take shortcuts may lose their ability to appreciate long-term value, resulting in stagnation and regression in their capabilities [16][18]. - The narrative of Lin Qingxuan, who chose hard work and writing over quick gains, serves as a contrast to those who pursue easy money, showcasing the long-term benefits of dedication [21][26]. Group 2: Choosing the Narrow Path - The article encourages individuals to make unique choices rather than following the crowd, as exemplified by the story of writer Huan Yan, who transitioned from a courier to a successful author by pursuing his passion [31][37]. - It stresses that each person has a unique position and path in life, which can only be discovered by resisting the temptation to conform [39][40]. - The author shares personal experiences of finding fulfillment in writing, reinforcing the idea that following one's passion can lead to success [42][51]. Group 3: Embracing Impermanence - The article reflects on the inevitability of aging and loss, using the metaphor of losing teeth to illustrate the acceptance of life's transient nature [58][60]. - It discusses the concept of "emptiness" in Buddhism, suggesting that understanding the impermanence of life can lead to inner peace and resilience [62][64]. - The story of Yang Jiang, who faced profound loss yet continued to live meaningfully, exemplifies the strength found in embracing life's uncertainties [67][74]. Group 4: Life Choices and Their Impact - The article posits that life is a series of choices, with each decision leading to vastly different outcomes, particularly at the age of forty, which is seen as a pivotal moment [77][80]. - It concludes that by avoiding shortcuts, choosing unique paths, and accepting impermanence, individuals can navigate life more effectively and find fulfillment [81][82].
久坐=慢性自杀!1个方法可抵消伤害(不是运动)
洞见· 2025-08-09 12:34
Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes the importance of maintaining proper sitting posture to prevent back pain and related health issues, particularly for office workers and students who spend long hours sitting. It introduces a product, the "Sifqi Love Heart Lumbar Cushion," designed to support correct posture and alleviate discomfort [1][21][30]. Group 1: Health Risks of Poor Posture - Many chairs are poorly designed, leading to discomfort and potential long-term health issues such as lumbar disc herniation and muscle strain [3][4][12]. - Research indicates that when slouching or leaning forward, the spine can bear over 270% of its normal weight, equivalent to carrying a 40-pound bucket of water daily [10][12]. - Poor posture can lead to visible physical changes, such as a flattened buttocks, wider hips, and an increased belly size, affecting both men and women [14][16]. Group 2: Product Introduction - The "Sifqi Love Heart Lumbar Cushion" is introduced as a compact and versatile solution for maintaining proper posture while sitting [25][30]. - The cushion is designed based on ergonomic principles, featuring a support system that aligns with the natural S-curve of the spine, providing necessary lumbar support [32][85]. - It incorporates high-density memory foam for comfort and durability, ensuring that users do not experience discomfort even with prolonged use [40][104]. Group 3: Benefits of the Product - The cushion helps users maintain an upright posture without conscious effort, reducing lumbar pressure and improving overall comfort [37][50]. - It is lightweight (2.4 pounds) and can support up to 300 pounds, making it suitable for various users [109][110]. - The product is designed to be portable and can be used in multiple settings, including at home, in the office, or while traveling [58][69]. Group 4: Pricing and Promotion - The regular price of the cushion is 198 yuan, but a promotional discount brings it down to 139 yuan, making it an affordable option for improving posture and comfort [71][119]. - The article encourages readers to consider purchasing the cushion as a cost-effective way to alleviate back pain and improve posture, suggesting that it is a worthwhile investment compared to other health-related expenses [75][121].
有一种很好的养生,叫家庭和睦
洞见· 2025-08-09 12:34
国际欧亚科学院院士胡大一,曾总结过一部"健康三字经"。 其中最重要的一个长寿秘诀,就是"家和睦,寿百岁"。 无独有偶,哈佛大学医学院一项长达20年的研究也发现,决定寿命长短的因素中,"与家人的 关系"排在第一位。 而家庭不和的人,总被怨气、争吵和冷战消耗,只会身心俱疲,日渐颓靡。 家庭的能量,决定了一个人生活的质量。 ♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听 洞见主播亚楠朗读音频 家庭和睦的人,长期被幸福的家庭氛围所滋养,心宽气顺,自然神采焕发; 洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下 蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的延伸阅读。 和睦的家庭关系,是颐养身心的密钥。 作者: 洞见·竹西 对普通人来说,和谐的家庭氛围,就是最好的养生良药。 01 前阵子看到一则新闻: 浙江丽水,一位妻子和丈夫因为家庭琐事,爆发了激烈争吵。 吵着吵着,妻子突然喘不上气来。 她瘫倒在地,开始恶心呕吐,全身控制不住地颤抖,手掌也僵硬得无法动弹。 送医后,她被确诊为呼吸性碱中毒,险些危及生命。 医生说:"气死人"是真实存在的。 很多人会有类似的感觉:发怒的时 ...
脱发有救了!滴一滴它,让你头发蹭蹭长,乌黑浓密、随风飘逸
洞见· 2025-08-08 12:37
Core Viewpoint - The article emphasizes the increasing prevalence of hair loss issues in China, with over 250 million people affected, highlighting the need for effective hair growth solutions [14]. Group 1: Hair Loss Problem - The article states that modern lifestyle factors such as late nights and stress contribute to worsening hair loss problems [7]. - It mentions that hair loss can lead to self-esteem issues, especially in social situations [12][14]. - The article provides a statistic indicating that 1 in 6 people in China suffers from hair loss [14]. Group 2: Product Introduction - The article introduces a hair growth product called "儒意蔓浓乌发育发液," which has been tested for effectiveness and is recommended for those experiencing hair thinning or receding hairlines [17][34]. - It highlights that the product utilizes Japanese hair activation technology and contains six precious herbal extracts [21][76]. - The product has received certification from the National Medical Products Administration, ensuring its effectiveness [22][52]. Group 3: Product Effectiveness - Users report visible improvements in hair density and growth after consistent use of the product [25][28]. - The article mentions that the product can help with various types of hair loss, including high hairlines and postpartum hair loss [46]. - It emphasizes that the product is easy to use, requiring only a few drops applied to the scalp [41][100]. Group 4: Ingredients and Technology - The product incorporates TEN-DDS technology, which promotes hair follicle cell growth and rejuvenation [71][73]. - It includes herbal ingredients such as Szechuan pepper leaf and He Shou Wu, known for their nourishing properties [78][85]. - The article notes that the product is free from harmful substances like hormones and silicones, making it safe for use [60][137]. Group 5: Customer Testimonials - The article shares positive testimonials from users who have experienced significant improvements in hair volume and overall appearance [105][110]. - It highlights a case where a user transformed from a receding hairline to a fuller head of hair, boosting their confidence [108]. - The product has garnered a strong reputation online, with many users returning for repeat purchases [119].
做人学杨绛,做事学林徽因
洞见· 2025-08-08 12:37
洞见 ( DJ00123987 ) —— 不一样的观点,不一样的故事, 3000 万人订阅的微信大号。点击标题下蓝字 " 洞见 " 关注,我们将为您提供有价值、有意思的 延伸阅读。 作者:玖轱酿 来源:帆书樊登讲书 (ID: readingclub_btfx) 以入世之心做事,以出世之心做人。 ♬ 点上方播放按钮可收听洞见主播一凡 朗读音频 人生不如意事十之八九,每个人都曾在某个时刻感受到深深的无助: 也许是工作的压力,也许是教育的焦虑,又或是面对婚姻和生活一地鸡毛的迷茫与无力...... 面对逆水行舟的一生,我们该以什么样的心境做人,又以什么样的态度做事? 很喜欢网上的一个回答: 做人当学杨绛,以平和对人生;做事当学林徽因,以坚韧对万千困局。 她们传奇的一生,炼出世之心得自在,行入世之事全己名。 面对人生的困局,不妨读读她们,获得精神的力量,在纷繁的当下点燃一瓣心香。 学杨绛,自在做人。 杨绛说: "每个人都会有一段异常艰难的时光,生活的压力,工作的失意,学业的压力,爱的惶惶不可终日。 挺过来的,人生就会豁然开朗,挺不过来的,时间也会教你,怎么与它们握手言和,不必害怕的。" 如果你正在被生活折磨得遍体鳞伤, ...