老师： 您好！我的孩子自控力较弱，写作业、学习都得催着，但催狠了孩子会产生逆反心理。我很焦虑，请问 家长要怎样提高孩子的自控力？ ——读者 读者： 更重要的是，家长要让孩子明白，学习、写作业、考试等都是他们自己的责任，而不是家长的责任。家 长不应过度干预，让孩子产生依赖心理。如果孩子因学习问题受到老师批评，家长应让孩子自己承担后 果，而不是立刻替孩子解决问题。这样，孩子才能学会对自己的行为负责。 此外，家长要学会让孩子接受自然惩罚和社会惩罚。自然惩罚是指让孩子自己承担不遵守规则所带来的 后果，如不穿厚衣服导致感冒。社会惩罚则是让孩子在违反社会规范时，接受相应的惩罚，如偷窃、作 弊等行为。适度的惩罚有助于孩子树立正确的价值观。 最后，家长要尊重孩子的选择权，让他们为自己的选择承担责任。如果家长总是为孩子安排一切，孩子 就会失去独立思考和承担责任的能力。在孩子成长过程中，家长要适时放手，让孩子在试错中成长。 总之，家长在引导孩子提高自控力的过程中，要把握好度，既不过度控制，也不过分放任。家长要先从 自己的心理建设做起，调整好心态，以更恰当的方式陪伴孩子成长。只有这样，孩子才能在父母的关爱 和引导下，在自由与规则中 ...

（原标题：父母顶级的自律，就是克制住不断纠正孩子的欲望） 你是否经常对自己的孩子发脾气？ 有没有跟他说过类似这样的话："告诉你多少遍了，怎么还不会？""你怎么这么笨？" 其实很多人都有这样说过，目的是为了纠错，帮助孩子成长，只是事与愿违。 01 纠错教育，带不来好的效果 法国著名哲学家卢梭说过这样一句话：三种对孩子不但无益反而有害的教育方法就是讲道理、发脾气、 刻意感动。 1.讲道理 父母总是习惯用自己的标准来要求孩子，当孩子不听话，或者孩子没有满足预期的行为，有的父母就会 一直讲道理，直到听到孩子承认自己错了，说知道了，才肯罢休。 但他们说知道了，并不意味着他真的认为你说的是对的，而是不想再忍受你的唠叨，他在压抑自己的情 绪。 当压力到达一定的程度，就会产生逆反心理。 2.发脾气 有的家长和孩子相处，当孩子表现不好的时候，就会吼孩子，冲孩子发脾气，甚至贬低讽刺挖苦和指责 孩子。 当然他们的出发点是好的，但采取了错误的关爱方式。 心理学上有一个"麦拉宾法则"，也叫做"7/38/55定律"。 意思是我们在和一个人交流时，对方感知到的信息：7％来自说的内容，38％来自语音、语调，55％来 自肢体语言。 简而言之， ...

Group 1 - Meituan announced the complete cancellation of the "overtime penalty" for delivery riders by the end of 2025, addressing a major concern among the crowd-sourced riders [1] - The company has implemented a new system called "Anzhun Card" to replace the previous penalty system, which has been piloted in 22 cities and received positive feedback from riders and the public [1][2] - Meituan is shifting its management approach from punitive measures to positive incentives, focusing on training and learning instead of solely penalizing riders [1] Group 2 - The company has introduced fatigue prevention measures, including pop-up reminders after 8 hours of work and mandatory offline after 12 hours, with 18% of riders triggering the 8-hour reminder [2] - Meituan has launched a "safety score" system in over 100 cities to improve traffic safety among riders, resulting in a 26% reduction in traffic violations [2] - The company plans to enhance the reporting and appeal processes for riders using AI to improve efficiency and quality in problem resolution [2] Group 3 - In Q2, Meituan reported revenue of approximately 91.84 billion yuan, an increase of 11.7% year-on-year, while adjusted net profit decreased by 89% to approximately 1.493 billion yuan [3] - The core local commerce segment saw a revenue increase of 7.7% to 65.3 billion yuan, but operating profit dropped by 75.6% to 3.7 billion yuan due to irrational competition [3] - New business revenue grew by 22.8% to 26.5 billion yuan, with operating losses expanding by 43.1% to 1.9 billion yuan, although the operating loss rate improved by 3.1 percentage points [3]

Group 1 - The core idea revolves around the concept of procrastination disguised as preparation, leading to missed opportunities and diminished interest in important tasks [1][2][3] - The article highlights that the mindset of "not being ready" often serves as a self-justification for delaying action, which ultimately results in subpar outcomes when tasks are finally undertaken [4][5][6] - Accumulated unresolved issues can clutter the mind, causing distractions and reducing overall efficiency, which is termed as "over-preparation" [7][8] Group 2 - Three primary reasons for over-preparation are identified: perfectionism, avoidance of pain, and self-sabotage [10][12][18] - Perfectionism stems from a desire to control all variables to achieve the best results, which is often unrealistic and leads to inaction [12][14] - Avoidance of pain is linked to the discomfort associated with deep thinking and problem-solving, causing individuals to delay facing challenging tasks [18][20][22] Group 3 - Self-sabotage occurs when individuals fear that their efforts will not meet their high expectations, leading them to procrastinate as a way to avoid confronting their perceived inadequacies [25][30][31] - The article suggests practical strategies to combat over-preparation, such as focusing on the process rather than perfection, breaking tasks into smaller steps, and maintaining a long-term perspective [33][34][44][55] - Encouraging self-reflection and recognizing achievements can help build confidence and reduce the tendency to procrastinate [48][51]